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I will say I’m unlucky, I don’t think dating is this hard for the average person. In fact, most people have it easy as long as they’re attractive. Since I’ve been on dating apps on and off for years, that’s the only way I’ve met people but I just never catch a break. The one time I saw someone short term, it felt like settling because no one else gave me attention & he wasn’t physically attractive to me but treated me okay. I always get pursued by the ones I don’t want, if they’re attractive they’re dicks or there’s no connection OR if they’re good looking but decent personality they’re too short for me.

Sometimes the guys on dating apps message and we speak for a little while, but things fizzle out. Out of no where in some cases, they reach out again and come across as unstable or a total asshole wanting to rub something in my face. Look at last post, is this standard of dating apps or am I unlucky?

I really don’t have a desire to be social and meet people in person, it’s so hard to make friends. I’ve never met someone through a friend like most have, I don’t know if even having a dating app profile is worth it. I’ve even tried bumble but it didn’t change my luck, I wanted to be more in control.

27F I will say I’m unlucky, I don’t think dating is this hard for the average person. In fact, most people have it easy as long as they’re attractive. Since I’ve been on dating apps on and off for years, that’s the only way I’ve met people but I just never catch a break. The one time I saw someone short term, it felt like settling because no one else gave me attention & he wasn’t physically attractive to me but treated me okay. I always get pursued by the ones I don’t want, if they’re attractive they’re dicks or there’s no connection OR if they’re good looking but decent personality they’re too short for me.

Sometimes the guys on dating apps message and we speak for a little while, but things fizzle out. Out of no where in some cases, they reach out again and come across as unstable or a total asshole wanting to rub something in my face. Look at last post, is this standard of dating apps or am I unlucky?

TL; DR: Typical with dating apps or just bad luck in love?

This question is not referring to people you were already really attracted to.
This also isn't referring to exercise, makeup or surgery. I'm really asking about if a great personality has significantly and positively affected how you viewed someone romantically in an instan.

Ex. You thought someone was a 7/10 in attractiveness and then in an instant became an 8.5/10 or higher.

Movie example:
In the Notebook, Ally didn't initially see Noah as a romantic prospect at all, but once she saw his personality, she knew she wanted him.

We were consistent for a year. I’m polygamist, so it never bothered me when he would speak to other women.
Then, he says this, seemingly accidentally, as I point to mysterious black panties on the floor. Hanes. Nothing special.
He was stuttering something else to make it seem as if he didn’t just say that.
I just stood there.

“is he trying to hurt me or is it a truth he just couldn’t hold in anymore?”

He still tugs at my energy, but i often wonder is it all in my head?
I say this bc I can feel him- I smell his cologne randomly. When I wake up, I have a strange feeling he’s waking up too.
I’ll be going about my business and for some reason, he pops up in my head and stays for a while, rent-free, it’s terrible.

I have friends! I have a life! I’m confident and attractive but humble and reserved. I have a great personality, so I been told.

but those 5 words.

He doesn’t call, but he picks up.
I ask him for favors and then revert to solving it myself.
Shouldn’t he be living his best life with her or something? she’s everything you want!

🙈 where has my self-respect gone?

I can’t help but let this bring my self esteem down. Most people I know my age are seeing someone or if they’re not, they have previous LTRs. The longest I saw a guy was for a few months back when I was 23 and quite frankly, I should have stayed single and a virgin. He had a decent personality but he wasn’t my preference physically and it felt like settling. I know I’m not a 10 but I’m told I’m attractive (not only by family/female friends), you all gave me a good rating for the most part. I just refuse to settle, I only have used dating apps but it’s worked for a lot so that shouldn’t be a deal breaker. How could someone go this long being single? All I can get are the ones that I’m not really into, if they check my boxes physically, they lack in personality or they’re the ones that aren’t into me. Regardless of how this makes me feel, since most women have it very easy, I’d rather be alone than taken and even more miserable.