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Met this guy 2 days ago & we really made a connection. Have been talking heaps on phone & laughing. Haven't been on a date yet due to work schedules but he wants to meet.
He has a bit of a dark sense of humour which is fine but last night he sent this & I woke up to it this morning:

I am now home, & kids are in bed. I know it's a school night for you, so you could be in bed. I'm boiling the kettle now to make myself a cup of tea ( that's what old people do, don't they?). If you feel like chatting I'm available, have transferred all phone sex calls so that I won't be receiving any.

It's been 5 minutes, and I have had no response from you.

Welcome now to the adventurous mind of Matt. You haven't responded to me because -
1. Your asleep ( boring )
2. Your daughter is being difficult (boring, but necessary I suppose)
3. You have decided that a 6'3", 100kg (yes I am, I think?) deep voiced man with a 3 inch penis with a bend isn't for you and your ignoring me (possible)
4. Your in the shower washing your body slowly with soap and bubbles, paying special attention to ALL the beautiful curves that you have been blessed with ( give me a moment... ok, I'm good now ).
5. Your out of the shower, standing in front of the mirror now, drying yourself with a very small towel. # Please refer to previous (4.) for remaining dialog#
6. Your having a bath... # Please refer to 4 & 5 and have a stab at what I would get you to refer to!
7. Your asleep, but in silk sheets, naked. ( works better in my head!)
8. Your out with your boyfriend
9. Your out with your girlfriend. # Only in my head of course, but if you could also add points 4, 5 & 6 to this one and just replace 'your' with 'we'.
10. Throwing a sicky tomorrow and your driving to my place now.
11. You have a double life as a secret agent and your out fighting the Chinese gangs that own the Gold Coast.
12. Your an employee working at a Russian call centre for 'bumble' and it's shift change!

Ok, I'm done now. Goodnight.

So this is an on-going issue for me. My boyfriend is mostly good natured, kind and generally a good person.

But the thing that bothers me most is his lack of attention, focus and how he spends a lot of time zoning out during conversations. I've asked him if I'm boring or just not doing it for him, but he always says 'no, that's just the way I am, even with my friends' he also said he 'can't help it'.

I mean today we were out with my friends for dinner, so there were four of us at the table. But while waiting for food, my friend, her boyfriend and I sat and chatted. I tried to involve my boyfriend in the conversation as much as I could, but the amount of times I looked over at him to see him blatantly zoned out, staring into space and clearly not paying attention was just totally aggravating. He literally sat there, making occasional eye contact and giving the odd smile but said next to nothing.

It's embarrassing, it comes off as rude and I just don't get why this happens. When I asked why he was disengaged he said 'I was too busy thinking about food' - I mean, what? We were all hungry, but that didn't affect everyone else's ability to pay attention. Numerous times over the day I'd ask him something and he'd reply with 'what?' indicating he hadn't been paying attention.

I'm just getting to the end of my tether with it. He previously abused substances for some of his latter teenage years into his early twenties, as well as suffered minor head injuries due to sporting accidents - but can any of that explain why he zones out? I just need help with this, it really is bothering me.