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Little backstory: I'm friends with a girl I like. We met through a school function in the beginning of the year. For the duration of that semester, we'd talk maybe once a week usually during when the club we were in met.

The beginning of this semester, we started talking more, I got her number and then we eventually started hanging out. We've gone to the bar a couple of times, gone bowling, etc. while still seeing each other during club meetings.

A few weeks ago, we both went on a trip with our church group for a weekend and this is pretty much when we really hit it off. We hung out everyday. We were in the same groups for meetings, ate together, and a few times I even thought she was flirting with me and I reciprocated and she didn't seem to be taken aback by it.

I eventually developed feelings for her even after I told myself I refused to get involved with another girl for a while after things went bad with the last girl I was involved with. I'm friends with quite a few women but she definitely sticks out and deep inside, I feel like she may be the one.

However, when we were sitting by the lake and talking, she told me that she liked another guy (I didn't tell her I liked her). A guy she was SURE she was going to end up with but hasn't really talked to much. She's told me that she's shy and isn't even sure if the guy would like her. I was of course a little heartbroken and surprised at this as I was fairly certain that she was into me as well.

Usually I would give up if a girl was into another guy but something in me is saying not to. I'm questioning whether I should let her do her thing and hope things work out between her and her "crush" or continue to be friends with her and hope that we may eventually get together. I woudl tell her how I feel but I'm afraid that I'll lose her as a friend. I just moved to where this college is and she's one really the only person I can be 100% honest and open with here