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Sorry this is long. Basically he messaged me on Okcupid, says that I’m really beautiful, we’re in each other’s age range (I’m 36, he’s 41 and says he wants a girl my age) and supposedly I have everything he was looking for in a woman. The problem was I really wasn’t feeling any interest for him after reading his profile, and he lived to far away from me (I’m on Long Island, he’s in NYC and kinda want someone who is also on the island that I don’t have to commute to date). I sent him a polite message (that’s very sweet of you but I don’t think we’d be a good match). He sends me two long paragraphs in return saying he doesn’t understand, that I should give him a chance, that I might change my mind once I get to know him, that I’m already 36 and not going to get many more chances then begs me to reconsider because he wants to leave the city and saw getting involved with someone like me as the perfect escape from New York, that he wanted us to pick out our future hometown together and said that he was really shocked because I sounded so nice in my profile. I apologized again, told him not to send me anymore messages and blocked him. So tonight (about three weeks later), I get another message from him (from another account he created) telling me he still really wants to get to know me, he still wants me to get to know him then gives me his phone number and begs me to call him because we’re both on that site looking for partners and he could be the “perfect partner for me but I don’t know it because I’m not giving him a chance”. I told him to stop messaging me and leave me alone. I was with two friends when I got this message. One told me that I did the right thing because he sounded really desperate and the other friend told me that I’m not getting any younger (which I’m not) and he sounds really interested. She says I should overlook the differences and the distance and date him, so now I’m feeling really bad. What do you all think?

I don’t think that’s the case, I want to find a partner but the guys that come my way do not float my boat. I only use dating apps, I don’t have a way to meet people in real life. When I was randomly approached in person, I did not find the men attractive. On the dating apps, I get a lot of matches but the men I find attractive don’t respond, take too long to respond or are boring. I’ve met up with guys from the apps, it hasn’t been a great experience. More bad than good, the better looking guys have a bland personality & the less attractive ones are more lively but not what I’m going for. I really am not that picky, I just want decent looks/ good job/ good personality. Why can’t I find a boyfriend?