Search Results: guys expressing feelings

What's the most common situation? I did my best to give some options in the multiple choice, but feel free to tweak them or express your own in comments. I've closed it to pink only, so speak without fear of being attacked.

Here's What the Men Want/Say:

* Don't say "nothing" if it's not nothing.

* Just talk. Be direct, even blunt about it, if you have to. We'd rather know.

* "State clearly what they want, what their expectations are, what is upsetting them and not expect us to just know." @Miristheiss

* "I try to create a space for them to tell me what the problem is, but am often left guessing and have had to learn to let go. It's unfortunate that a friendship can be so easily ruined by what might have been a complete misunderstanding." @Insightfull

* "I would like to see women express their thoughts, opinions and emotions in the moment without fear of conflict. Men and women can both be guilty of not being vocal with one another before things reach an uncomfortable level which often results in one or both of the individuals involved feeling less appreciated or not respected. Conflict doesn't have to be elevated beyond expressing oneself." @automatic812

* "I think it would help tremendously if... women would kindly notify whenever any new seeds of conflict have sprouted in her head. That way, we can always nip our conflicts in the bud before they ever get the chance to flourish into a garden of quarrels and weaponized intimate details, which would inevitably expand enough to burst out of the woman's mouth at dangerous speeds if we were to ignore it long enough." @DonCachondo

* "Think and speak rationally. Do not retreat into feelings. Do not deflect..." @Dargil

* "Be direct and clear versus expecting guys to “just know” and read their minds or even worse, making us wait until you’re read to talk about something that affects both of us." @Dongtai

What would you like to see females do to better handle conflict?

So I’ve been seeing a guy for a little over 4 months. A month ago he had this little talk with me in which he explained that while it hadn’t been that long since we have been seeing each other and it takes him a long time to really trust someone completely, he also admits that he thinks we have developed a strong bond in the little time we have spent together and he has really strong feelings for me. I’m ridiculously awkward and unskilled when it comes to an ability to articulate feelings of affection with words, and I basically froze up, his my face under the covers and told him that I really wanted to respond to that but that im horrible with expressing my feelings, and that I just want him to know that even though I’m too weird to say anything doesn’t mean that I don’t feel a similar way.

lately when we have seen each other I’ve just had this strong urge to tell him I love him. I ordinarily wouldn’t mind just keeping it to myself for a while but I feel like holding it in is interfering with my ability to enjoy our time together in a way. Like it’s distracting as I’ll be thinking it when he’s talking rather than listening and participating in the conversation.
should I just tell him? Or is it better to let him take the lead? I don’t want to scare him or make him feel pressured into reciprocating and I’d rather wait if he were to feel that way. On the other hand it would totally relieve me and put me at ease not to feel like I’m holding it in anymore.