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So just some background information, I’m 22 now and my dad is around 65-68. He also had stokes around 5 years ago thats left him somewhat dependent on us to take care of him among other health issues. Before the strokes though, when I was a teenager, there were times were he did stare at my body a little too intensely along with a family friend that was there as well. That was partially because I was wearing a tight fitted shirt but I wasn’t expecting them to be there. Growing up as well as now, he comments on my weight and mostly says I’m too fat. Only a couple of times when I did lose some weight, he said I’ve gotten skinner which I didn’t really care for.

Recently though, I noticed that he stares at my chest longer than normal for when I’m trying to help him get up from his wheelchair even though I’m not wearing a low cut/tight shirt. At first I disregarded it but now it’s happening almost every time I help. He also stares at the rest of my body sometimes when I’m walking by but doesn’t say anything. Today though, he was trying to look through the crack of my wardrobe door to stare at me while I was changing. I’m not sure if he knew I was changing then or what (I wasn’t naked then either, I still had my clothes on), but it made me really uncomfortable that he still glanced that way regardless besides keep on walking. I’m not sure who to really talk to about this and afraid that I’m assuming incorrectly about his character once I do tell someone. What do you guys think?

I have known this guy my whole life. His mum has been friends with my nan since before we were both born so we are family friends. He is 24 and I am 20. We lost contact for a bit over the years but reconnected properly 2 and a half years ago and both told eachother that we had a crush on the other when we were growing up. Since then we have spoken often but never dated. We go through the same cycle of saying we like eachother and want to make it "official" but he always comes up with something afterwards like "i have commitment issues", "I'm not ready for a relationship" or "I don't know how my mum would react". We meet up every few months and usually end up being intimate then he ghosts for weeks or months. We have a good laugh when we are together and it could be amazing if we saw eachother more often. He got out of a very physically abusive relationship with a girl where he had to get a restraining order, so I always use that as the reason he might be scared to commit. I met his mum recently which seemed like a big step cause I didn't see her for the 2 and a half years we were talking and she is the most important person in his life, but I still feel like I am getting mixed signals from him. Don't know whether it is time to move on or whether I might be getting somewhere.