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So I purchased my condo around a year ago & worked with realtor around my age. She’s maybe a few months older than me, she’s friendly and good at what she does. I shared a few personal things with her, fears when it came to buying my place. She follows me on IG and used to check in during the holidays. She shared a few things with my mom and I, when she worked with me during the buying process, she mentioned she was still renting. Also mentioned that she went through a few tough times personally and how her finances were affected in the process. Mind you, I see her IG and FB, she seems pretty comfortable. During these “financial issues”, she’s been traveling all around the country. Goes on nice vacations and has a lot of friends, mentioned that before she bought a duplex earlier this year, she and her boyfriend rented an apt. The apt was like 2k a month, yes, I get having help with the rent helps but that’s a lot for a person with financial issues. In less than a year from when I bought my place is when she bought her duplex. I’m not hating, I’m just saying, I don’t buy her “struggles” story.

I think she was sharing that story to come across as more relatable & possibly humble. We are the minority (she’s white) but yeah am I just jaded?

We got into a bad argument a couple months ago after a weird period of us being really distant from each other, and he admitted to being so frustrated he thought about hitting up other girls, but never did. And since then he's been talking to this girl he knows 24/7. I'm not exaggerating when I say there is a notification that she messaged him every time I get a glimpse of his phone. But whenever I told him about how uncomfortable it made me he told me I was being selfish and paranoid and that she needed help because she's struggling with all these different problems and so on, and would continue texting her constantly. I had kept noticing the past two months or so, whenever he'd hand me his phone for whatever reason he'd always delete their DMs before handing it to me. And last night I had finally had enough of that and called him out. I was more mad that he thought I was actually stupid enough not to notice him do that so often then I was about him talking to her. And he kept listing excuse after excuse and kept saying he wasn't lying since they weren't doing anything and I have no reason to be mad and blah blah blah. But he is STILL talking to this chick non stop. And it really bothers me that he uses him knowing her from school (for less of a time than I knew him) as an excuse and will completely ignore my discomfort. I understand he's gonna have female friends and talk to them, I have male friends. But I don't understand why I'm in the wrong for being uncomfortable with him repeatedly crossing the boundaries of my comfort. He claims I'm violating his free will but I'm not asking him to drop communication entirely. I just want him to be mindful of how I feel and take that into consideration before going out of his way to start a conversation every day.