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When single (as an adult) my general rule has been a 6 week wait to weed out any players or for disinterest from either party to set in. 'Sex' includes oral and any sexual play with clothes off. Kissing and maybe some making out is ok.

It all starts out with most women preferring players, fuckbois and assholes over the good guys because, well, I dont know why.

But the good men are the ones who are trampled in the process. Because they are turned down because who wants nice guys right?

It would have been a more equal I playground if the good girls wouldn't friend zone the ones that love and respect them for those who dont respect them and see them just as easy sex.

This leads to the good guys suffer from low self esteem and eventually not wanting to take the initiative at all, and you can't blame them for it.
You can hear quotes like,

"I know he is a player, but I want him , i dont know what it is"

These are the same girls that get their heart broken or used for sex and then dumped, and who are the ones that they got to for a shoulder to cry on?
You are right,
THE GOOD GUYS


Then it is followed by statements like,
" I am never going to find a good guy who loves me and doesn't play with my emotions "
The good guy builds up the courage to show his feelings towards her when she recovers from her 'bad boy dumped me' phase and what happens?
Wham!!
" how dare you? Get away from me, I thought you cared about me"



Another blow to the poor guy.
And thus pseudo hurt female goes back to dating fuckbois and after having completely shattered , who does she expect to step in and treat her right?
You guessed it right, the good guy. Who she hurt time and time again, but he stood by her even though it hurt him to bits.


And if he refuses to take her as a partner, then ohhh my lord FEMINISM. The rambling about slut shaming starts and blaming all men for judging women for the past relationships and how all men just want sex.
The worst part
NOTE:
I am not saying that all women are like this, some learn their lesson before its too late, some know what they want and they stay away from fuckbois because they learn from the mistakes of others.

I'd like to hear your views and opinions about it.

I started to like my best friends cousin but he's older than me by 6 years and he said he liked me too but only as a friend. After I told my friend about this she didn't really like it. He always seemed like the player/flirty type. After, she told me he's cheating and dating two girls I backed off because this proved he was a player, I likehim but we can't really date because of age and I don't really want to date him, I don't know what it is I just really like him. I go to the same school as his younger brother who's only one year older than me, is it bad If i start to like him and he also knows that I like his brother and he teases me about it. They both don't understand English so it's kinda hard to communicate but we are learning each other's languages. Also my best friend always ask why don't I like him but there's nothing wrong with him. Also my other bestfriend went to the dance with him but that was a long time ago. What should I do?