It's no secret that men are typically known as the "aggressors" when it comes to dating. They are the ones who are expected to make the first move. This is 2017 though, why are we still stuck in these gender roles when it comes to dating? In my opinion, ANYONE who has a crush should be forward and direct. It doesn't matter if you are a man or a woman, ask them out! The worst they could do is say 'no.' Don't let your fear of rejection stop you from building a potentially great relationship.
Many women I've spoken to claim they are too nervous to ask a guy out due to what the guy's reaction may be. Well how do you think men feel every time they approach a woman? I'm sure a vast majority of them have that same nervousness and uncertainty but in order to get a relationship, you have to put yourself out there.
This graph from Psychology Today shows the number of times participants had asked someone out on a date in the last year. As you can see, it shows men being significantly more active in asking out women for dates.
Studies have shown that men want women to take the initiative too! This Match.com survey found that 95% of men are pleased if a woman asks for a man’s phone number yet only 13% of women said they would initiate the first date by asking a guy out. Those numbers speak for themselves. Men don't mind if a woman makes the first move and many of them WANT you to.
Still need further proof? Recently, a sex and relationships blogger from Twitter decided to do a small social experiment. The blogger, Oloni, encouraged women to ask out their crushes and then screenshot their responses.
Ladies ask that guy you fancy out on a date and tweet me a screen shot of his response. 💁🏾— Oloni (@Oloni) October 26, 2017
And surprisingly (or not so surprisingly)...most of the responses from men were positive! Here are just a few of the screenshots people tweeted in response.
Shoot your shot, then score 😊 pic.twitter.com/jCRjYUzJlx— Puddin'!! 🎃 (@jvtheGOAT) October 27, 2017
What does all of this prove? That sometimes men want to be "courted" too! It makes sense, I mean, who doesn't want to feel wanted? So ladies, if you're complaining about being single, there are no excuses! There is nothing stopping you from making the first move. If you really want a relationship, why not be proactive rather than sitting around waiting for someone to approach you? Next time you have a crush, don't be scared to go for it! Men do it all the time and we can too. 😉