I was dating my now ex-boyfriend for over 4 years, when I realized that being with him was only making me delusional to the reality of what I wanted. I had come in wanting something, and just to make my ex boyfriend happy, I had created a story to myself that I could live with these things, and that perhaps my priorities could be placed on the back burned. I hope that this myTake will open up the eyes of other women, who may have been, or are presently in a relationship like I was in. Stay true to what you want, because settling is a big mistake.
My boyfriend didn't want marriage
When I entered my relationship, all I ever wanted since growing up was a marriage. It didn't have to be big, but I believe that marriage more than just a piece of paper. It is a sign of utmost commitment, a pact and a declaration of love. For me it was so significant, but my boyfriend didn't believe in it. He would spend hours talking about how unnecessary it was, and that as long as we are happy that is all that counts. I would force myself to believe that it was OK to live like we were, when in reality I was heartbroken.
My boyfriend didn't want kids
I love children and wanted to have kids. My boyfriend kept pushing that we can't afford kids, and it's too much work and that we should focus on us, and our ability to travel while we are young. Although he may have been right, my craving for children was something that I couldn't deny, and it was hard to tell myself that perhaps I didn't want kids, when in reality I really did.
My boyfriend didn't want animals
I love dogs and have dreamed of getting one. My boyfriend didn't like the hassle and responsibility and made it clear that it isn't happening. I would look at our neighbors and visit animal shelters, and long for an animal that I could love. My boyfriend would delude me to drop the silly idea.
My boyfriend didn't like to go out
I love going out to dinners and movies, and to bars once in a while with my significant other. My boyfriend on the other hand loved to stay at home and watch movies or play video games. He would bring up the monetary expenses, and how annoying it was to deal with other people. I would convince myself that maybe he was right...
My boyfriend didn't like spending money
My boyfriend would rarely go out or spend money on me. He would go on about how its best to save up for travel, rather than a time $100 dinner. And although it is true, it is nice to be taken out once in a while. Over time I forgot what it's like to be taken on a date.