The other day, I was sitting in the park. I was taking a short rest on my way home, and enjoying the beautiful day- the sun was out and the light evening breeze made it perfect to stay outside. There is a guy on the bench near me. I see he notices me, but he keeps on pretending to be occupied on his phone. After a few minutes he moves to sit near me, and starts a conversation. It is clear that he is interested in me. And I am not.
He isn't creepy. He is actually kind of cute. But here is the thing- sometimes a girl isn't attracted to someone, just because. And I am trying to be nice, because he is nice. But more importantly, I am making it clear that I am not interested. I am not being overly friendly, just polite. I am doing whatever I can to show that i am not flirting. A minute later, when I get up to leave, he catches my hand, smiles and says "come on, then. Give me your number." This only leaves me with one option- to reject him directly and firmly.
Guys. Rejection hurts. I know that first hand. I hate to do that to others. But sometimes, when guys approach me, I don't feel like they see me as a person. They see me as an achievement- if I get her number, then I win.
The thing I really want to tell boys is that if I chose not to give you my number/let you buy me a drink/ sleep with you, it doesn't mean you "lose". You are not worth less than if the girl chooses to do all these things.
Here's what you need to know- each girl has her own set of turn ons and offs, and a lot of them are weird. Seriously. You want examples?
Turn ons : wheelchairs, stutter, big scars, dudes over 60 years old...
Turn offs can be anything too. It can be blond hair, being overly chisled, chest hair or no hair at all, having a face which is too perfect (seriously-one friend listed that as a turnoff).
So, if somebody isn't interested, it doesn't mean that anything is wrong with you- you are just not her type.
Please, please don't make it necessary for somebody to turn you down aggressively. Please respect our choices- if we choose not to date you, than we mean it.