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My guy has two women that want him, they are both from his past and both want to be with him. He's told them he's in a relationship yet they both continue to flirt with him and one even tried to lay a guilt trip on him about not talking to her since we got together. When it comes up (and it does frequently) I get anxious and it always starts a long discussion about how insecure I am and how I don't have anything to worry about and always makes remarks about how I talk to people of the opposite sex. The difference is, and I have stated, none of them have said they want to have my baby or that they love me and don't want my boyfriend to tell me they are talking to him.. He says that they both make him uncomfortable but they are both old friends he doesn't want to lose. He does have a big heart and thinks of the latter one as a baby sister that he used to watch over, he'd tried to have a relationship with her in the past but she chose someone else.

I'm so frustrated! the first woman aborted his child without even telling him she was pregnant over 10 years ago and the other one is married with kids yet texted him last night and said it upset her that he let me read her texts. I'm too old to be getting jealous over these women but I still feel it come over me, I don't think he handles them properly at all and he won't take my advice on what to say but instead insists on handling things his way. I feel like he is encouraging them but he doesn't and says I don't know them like he does. I love him and we are committed to each other, I know I have nothing to worry about with him. He's never cheated on anyone and is extremely loyal. I just find it HIGHLY disrespectful that these ladies won't get it through their head what is appropriate and what is not and moreso with him for putting me in this position in the first place by not being more clear with them. Should I just let it go or should I dig my heels in? I'm scared of pushing him away but this is an ongoing issue I don't know if I can really deal with much longer without getting in a major argument and ultimatums being made, which he has stated several times he wouldn't tolerate from me.

I got into a huge fight with my boyfriend a few months ago over one of his female coworkers he seemed to be getting a little too close to. He swore she was just a friend and that there was nothing inappropriate between the two despite her wanting too know if he was dating anyone.

He gave me his facebook password recently after acknowledging he has a problem when it comes to interacting with other girls so we could make things transparent and talk about how to fix things. Low and behold I see a message from his friend asking if he knew the female coworker and he was all "Yeah, she`s trying to get me in trouble with my girl x)" "dat assssssssssssssssssss, she`s cool as hell though". This was months before I confronted him but despite knowing her intent he still interacted with her until I told him to stop.

I found several messages over the years during our relationship about him making comments like these about other girls and about how he`d "hit it" if he was single. Some of them were really vulgar and there was proof that he`d been flirting around and entertaining whatever attention came his way but he`s never physically cheated as far as I know. I want to rebuild with him but finding out those things is making me wonder if it`s even a good idea at all.

At the time we met I had just got rid of a cheater and he took care of me after admitting he just got out of a relationship with a girl he regretted cheating on so he knew how fragile things were. Knowing about his past, I knew he was a risk but just asked him to be completely honest about everything so that I could at least respect him for that and decide if the relationship should be more flexible/open for us both to explore. I`m not mad about the girls, I`m mad that he said he wanted to be exclusive, acted single then continued to lie when I asked him about certain things I felt were going on despite me giving him several chances to be truthful for years.

Should I just leave him alone?

He's definitely not the type of guy to cheat but it still bothers me. I've convinced him that I won't get jealous so he tells me about interactions he has with girls, and I feel like he gets crushes or something. He talks about this girl at his work a lot and this other girl at this group he's in. He told me at one point that everyone thought he was dating some girl at that group because they have "great conversation" and were surprised to find that he was dating me instead. He also had a long conversation with this girl over the phone who was supposedly being trained by him. He also has multiple friends online that are girls that he apparently doesn't talk to anymore. Lately he seems less preoccupied with talking to me so I'm getting worried that he found someone else.

We're in a long distance relationship.. hence the paranoia. We've met up a couple times and were great together. I feel like distance really hurts our relationship. He thinks it's all in my head but I don't know. Thoughts?