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I need a guy's perspective! Sorry for the repeat post.

My ex and I are almost 17. After four months, he dumped me because he said he wasn't ready for a relationship.

I was SO SHOCKED because his behavior hadn't changed at all until the week before, when he couldn't hang out QUITE as often (but still did a fair amount) and was slightly less physically affectionate. Even up until MINUTES before the breakup he was still always texting me with interest in my life, opinions, saying good night, etc, and treating me with great chivalry and attention. I was recovering from surgery at that time so that behavior could've been out of politeness, but he'd always been that way after we became romantically involved and seemed interested in MANY things beyond my recovery.

I'm just so confused because he really seemed to be into even up to the end... but after the breakup I told him I deeply cared and he didn't either reciprocate it or deny he did too, just kept saying he was sorry but he wasn't ready (keep in mind this conversation was all over text). Maybe he didn't want to commit because we'd be forced to separate after graduation?

So either he stopped liking me, wasn't ready, or his parents influenced/forced him to end it. He's VERY DEPENDENT on them, LOVING them and allowing them to control essentially his entire life. And they didn't want him dating.

Also wanted to add that due to mutual religious beliefs, sex was never involved (in fact, he was VERY shy/nervous about affection, especially PDA around his parents. It seemed I was more comfortable going further than he was).

But if he truly still liked me, would any of that had mattered? I told him I couldn't be friends, so we've avoided each other and he hasn't had a gf in the months since.

Please be honest. Thank you!

Even though I know 70 percent of the people who read this are going to be guys...😑

Question is.. would you be ok being friends with a girl who you have a lot in common with and you get along with super well.. but... she's gay..( very feminine.. and not interested in you what so ever ).. normal looks like any other typical girl..

I ask this because I'm moving soon and going to have to make New friends in that new town.. and i hope my sexually does'nt influence peoples judgements of me..
I don't know why I ask Since people don't even know I'm gay untill I tell them.. but I feel like I should if I see someone every day or so.. and my other friends never cared so... just wondering?

There is this guy I have known since I was a child, we grew up together and spent time through training in a sport and being sponsored by the same team. We grew closer through the years as usually happens; however, unfortunately as we grew older we grew apart in actions but closer in friendship. (He smoked a lot of weed and didn't do well in school as well was a party goer as I was very traditional, did well in school and kept to myself not drinking till I was of age etc). A time had come in my life where I ended up in the hospital with a failing kidney and kidney stones of all things... a lot of things had happened between him and I (he had spread a rumor about me while drunk, and I had been lying to him saying I was doing better than I was in my life), problems grew because I wasn't emotional enough and he also lied about many things in attempts to protect me from who he had become... I got stressed and misused my Oxycontin dosage (I did this once after curiosity as how this would make me feel better about my situation in the hospital as well as with him) after a friend informed him of what was going on he stayed on the phone with me a few nights till I was better and to convince me I was better than him when it came to being a person (including not doing drugs before). After he sorted that out he concluded to end our friendship in fear (according to him) he was influencing me and he was "ending it for me." As I know our situation is difficult, I can't forget about him. It's been only 4 months... should I message him again and try and speak? Or let it go, I had my time with him... I shouldn't be greedy in my friendships, if he's done, he's done.