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Need some relationship guidance and advise..

I met this girl over the summer, everything was going well, met her family and she met mine shortly after.. everything was progressing really fast but felt right. right before I left for a month long vacation she said she wants to get to know me better and as more then just friends. Two days in a row while on vacation I didn't message her and she got distant from then. Once I got back I asked her officially out and she ended up saying she couldn't commit and didn't feel the connection and wanted to be friends - I initially said yes, but then went No Contact, but only for 2 weeks.

I started texting and tried to build up the attraction again - this went for about a month and I met up with her. However I brought up the relationship and what had happened for her to go cold (my mistake) As soon as I did she backed away more and said she needed time to be normal with me again.

A week after, I reached out and said let's just be friends and she agreed. She was still however distant and barely texting back - 1 response back every few days - I asked her why - she said she was really busy.

This week, I tried calling a few times in a row and texted her to meet up - she didn't pick up nor has she responded. Complete silence.

Background on Her:
-she's been super hurt in the past and runs away when things get serious
-she was in a seriously relationship 5 years ago and hasn't been with anyone since (3 years so far)
-She's protecting her self from getting hurt again (self-preservation)
-we only talked for a few months and weren't really boyfriend / girlfriend.
-I never kissed her
-she definitely had strong feelings for me before I left on vacation
-she likes attention and flirts a lot
-I think she might be playing the field a bit

What is my best approach for one day having a relationship with her?

1) Should I text her saying that I'll give her time and wait until she contacts me?
2) Should I go no contact on her for a month or two and then reach out?
3) Should I ask her what she wants and go with it?
4) Should I try to be friends so she can trust me without being scared and hopefully bring down that wall that she now has up.

I know she's worth it and will do anything right now to increase my chances to one day be with her. I know I made mistakes - this situation is just tricky and I really don't know what to do.

I'm almost 21 years old and never had a girlfriend. Never even kissed a girl apart from on the cheek or forehead.

I need to get braces because some of my teeth are crooked. Looking in the mirror, most of them are not bad at all. I take good care of my teeth and get them cleaned at the dentist regularly. They are white and healthy and the only thing is that I have some crowding on the bottom and one crooked tooth up top. There are definitely much more worse cases that I've seen.

My teeth make me not want to smile too much and that becomes a problem when I'm talking to girls more intimately. But I simply cannot figure out why it bothers me so much. I feel like I can't look too bad if I have female friends who still kiss me on the cheek and like to set me up with their friends.

I mean at one point recently I was scared on picking a college major and so I took some extra classes and "just did it." Now I have an idea on what I'm doing with my life. I was unhappy with my body appearance so I took the burden head on and worked out to the point of being happy with my body. I didn't have many friends when I first started college and so for once I put myself out there and got a great group of friends.

So why can't I look past this flaw? I know if it we're someone else with my same teeth It wouldn't bother me. It's like my emotional insecurity is preventing me from physically smiling to convey emotion which I feel is a very important part of human interaction.

I'm currently out of school and working as the program I want to be in is full. So I started working and my health insurance won't kick in for another six months. I have to wait it out because seven thousand dollars is too much for me to drop right now.

I know I want a relationship. Most of my friends are in relationships and it bothers me when I see people together and I don't have that.