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I have observed that women in general are much more rude to male strangers than vice versa. In certain scenarios that might be warranted say if a woman was walking alone on a dark street. But in other common public in public and completely safe place women act rude for the hello of it. Unless of course if they think the guy is cute they are not surprisingly more friendly. But if he is just average or unattractive guy they act rude to varying degree (anywhere from giving a “you creep” glance all the way up saying something nasty).

I have plenty if incidents where just being in proximity or just say hello with no sexual context I’ve had women be rude. But I remember one incident when I was 23. I was walking down the street in a popular part of a college town. A blonde 19 yr old walked up to me on the street out of nowhere. She then ask me “hey do you know so and so is”. The name sounded familiar but it didn’t click right away. But thinking it might be a positive flirty sign by auto response I just said “ah yeah”. She then said “you look just like him” with a cunt look and walked off.

I then immediately realized who she was talking about and it was a very nasty insult. I wish it was legal to punch her in the face after that. But that little cunt knows the whole world was on her side.

I know people can be dbags but can you see a guy walking up to a random girl:young woman and saying something like that in broad daylight? Maybe if he some crazy sketched out homeless guy but otherwise hell no.

I remember getting in my first big age gap relationship at 28. I was dating a 20 year old. It was a weird combination of excitement, fear of judgment, concern about maturity and yet youthful fun and vigor. I was also the oldest guy she ever dated too. That one didn’t work out. She was very immature and a freeloader. I also sometimes acted purposely immature out of fear of looking too boring/old. There is a playful way to do that but you need to switch it off fast in when you are expected to be an adult. Not always easy to switch.

I’ve been in 3 other age gap relationships. Biggest gap was 34 and 21. That was doomed to fail from the start but we had a ton of fun while it lasted. She ghosted me after 9 months and I was surprised it lasted that long. The ghosting still hurt and was complete bullshit. But I knew that risk came with the territory.

I’m not opposed to dating women my age. As long their relatively attractive and have a positive attitude I’ll give it a shot. But here are the challenges:

- They are far fewer single women my age.
- They are usually divorced and/or have kids. Not a dealbreaker but it definitely complicates things.
- I also noticed single women my age forget how to be fun. I briefly dated a woman a year older than me and I was shocked/pissed off that she thinks it still okay to shit test men on sexual stuff. She lead me on and changed her mind at the last second. A grown ass woman should know better than that.
- If I want to get serious with one than having kids could be a bigger challenge.
- Some older single women are just mentally unstable. I know that same standard could be applied to me. But as a man nobody is taking a knee to propose to me in marriage. Being single at my age has much different ramifications (and bad stereotypes) as a man vs. a woman.