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I am 26 and my boyfriend is 22. Coming this March, we have been together for 3 years. During our 3 years, it has been very rough. In the beginning, I've dealt with him calling me names, screaming at the top of his lungs/ in my face/ punching walls/ throwing things/, cheating on me, creating secret accounts by asking other women for sex, forming relationships online with other girls (where he'd stay up from the day until 6am with them & ignore me), calling other girls and prostitutes to meet with them (but would never follow through with it), and lying. Now, I would have left, but I stayed because I understood he was insecure about himself since he told me he was, and I gave him another chance when he said he snapped out of it and realized how much he was hurting me. He promised all this would change and it'd be in the past. We were working on trust again. I have not cheated, not lied, not deceived, and not have been unfaithful.

One of our reoccurring problems, is that he hides stuff from me and it always has to do with other women. Whether it be flirting or visiting sites. For a long time, HE STOPPED doing these things and our trust was almost restored UNTIL yesterday. We share a phone. I opened it and all these nude pictures of women popped up in the private browser. He forgot to close it. I was upset he felt the need to hide it and what else could he be hiding? He's always "tired" and we hardly have sex or he says I am too loud and he doesn't want to wake his parents. I don't send him sexy pictures anymore; he tells me not to because he doesn't want to get his icloud hacked like other people. It's confusing. He tells me he doesn't have sexy pictures of me so he needs to look at other nude women to get off. It hurts since he always says I am the only person he jerks off to when I have proof that is a lie. The only pictures he has of me are normal smiling pictures and he told me he's a visual person. I feel like I can't trust him anymore. It's old. Help?