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I think dating apps have desensitised us, people are no longer treated with kindness/fairness.

When you're dating someone you can sure as hell expect them to be seeing 2-5 other girls/guys until your 'exclusive'.

I find that quiet silly, if you are interested in me and i am into you, why the need to see other people. It's like you're not even trying to form a connection. The term 'don't put all your eggs in one basket' is so annoying. No ones telling you to marry this person, they don't have to be the be all and end all of your life.

But I think it's just respectful (cant even use the term common courtesy) to date one person at a time, rather than seeing multiple people until you decide to be exclusive with one.

In a generation that has been nurtured to compete and not 'miss out', I think everyone is so set on not limiting their so called 'options'. We forget that we are dealing with people, and giving your full attention to ONE potential partner, does not limit your options from meeting 'the one'. If anything you're giving yourself a wholehearted opportunity to see if they are the right person for you. Just give people a chance to show who they really are.

In today's generation
- Girls: 'Dave didn't compliment my outfit, Nick and John did, goodbye Dave'.

- Guys: 'Louise laughs at my jokes, but Amy and Gemma look prettier laughing, C yaa Lou'

It's become ridiculous that a guy gets shocked when I say his the only person I'm seeing right now, as if I am Virgin Mary in disguise.

Maybe i'm just a boring old fart, born in the wrong generation who should shut up. But i'm sick of this emphasis on 'exclusivity'; declaring it has become as significant as proposing to a partner.


So what are your opinions?

I was pressured by this girl to give her information and I felt she was always breathing down my neck about the secret I didn't want to tell anyone because it might hurt someone's feelings.

Everytime I saw this girl she would repeatedly say "you have to tell me" I began to wonder when she would finally shut up about it but she never did. I ended telling her and regretted it instantly because I felt she would go around telling everyone.

I know it was partly my fault but should I stay friends with her if I fear she can't keep the only secret I've ever told her? And should I keep this person around if I feel Everytime they want something out of me that's all I'll hear about?