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Me and my husband have been married for a year and a half now but we've been together for three. When we first got together he was fun romantic and outgoing. Now he is none of those things. Its hard for me because i am very outgoing i love to socialize but he's a true introvert. I think he did those things just to impress me. He doesn't try to romance me not even for sex its just "take your clothes off" and sometimes a more rude "open those legs" like eww that is in no way shape or form sexy. I've been dealing with this pretty much for 2 and a half years. But on the other hand he wants me to do allllll the tricks in bed when he barely do the minimum. The other day he said just eat your oatmeal in the bed while i "get it in" like um selfish. I am never satisfied and he doesn't try to satisfy me. I've given him lectures i even wrote a 5 page paper how to satisfy me in bed and out he doesn't listen. He never surprise me and take me out. After a long day of work if i say babe my feet hurt can you rub them, he would literally do it for a minute and its unfair because i rub his back for at least an hour each night. or at least i use too. there's so much more/ But long story short he's an awesome father and friend just a terrible lover. He does always have my back and is there for me. But Im not attracted to him anymore and don't find him sexually appealing especially due to the fact that sex to him means no kissing or touching just put it on in there. -_- He does nothing to make me feel special like how id think a true husband would make his wife feel. I surprise him with candle lit dinners after a long day of work and i don't get any special treatment. As a result I've found myself yearning to be touched or to feel special like I'm the only one in the universe. I stare at the guys that come through the office. Its pathetic. However I'm the only family he has and i don't want to leave a good guy for reasons that may not be justified. please help! hope it wasn't too long

I'm married, and so is the guy I'm seeing on the side. We both have kids, and our marriages are both on the rocks. The guy, whom I'll call Jim, worked with my husband, and one night we all decided to get together and double date at a bowling alley. His wife "Nina" and I didn't get along from the beginning. We were drinking rum before we left, and drank a lot of beer at the bowling alley. I went outside to smoke a cigarette, and when I came back in there was Jim by the door, and he gave me a hug. It was pretty innocent, and he told me I give the best hugs. I enjoyed it because, well, I was attracted to him. We all took a taxi back to my house, where we drank more and played cards. We all had fun, but the hug was still on my mind. After cards, they slept in my kids room because the kids weren't home and everyone was drunk, so they stayed. Needless to say, I got up in the middle of the night and found Jim and started making out with him in the hallway. Then we went into the living room and kissed for hours. No sex obvi bc our spouses were in other rooms. The whole week afterward we texted nonstop. He came back the following weekend, and we did it again, with my husband passed out in the other room. After that we have pretty much been inseparable.. this was 3 months ago. He quit his job and stopped talking to my husband entirely now. There is no sign that we ever talk to or see each other. We have fallen so madly and deeply in love with each other that it's scary. I can't go a moment without thinking about him or worrying about him. I mean, damn.. he quit his job for me!! I'm trying to move out in a month. I'm not going to move in with this guy, at least not for a long time.. I'm not leaving my husband for him, I'm leaving for me. It isn't fair to my husband either for me to be here. I'm just wondering if I should trust him. I really think I can, but the whole thing has got me in a tailspin like this is a bad way to start a relationship. I KNOW he loves me.. no question

Hey guys... I know this is quite full on but I can't talk to my friends about this and I need insight.
I have been married for 3 years and been with my husband since I was 15 (now 30).
He is a pretty big pot head and it causes a lot of problems in our relationship. He goes mental when he doesn't have it and it quite often scares me.. he always says he'll stop but I think that's just something he tells me when I'm not talking to him so I'll get over it. I never nag but I often tell him I just want to run away and not have to deal with this. Im highly sexual and it affects me so bad. He gets stoned and falls asleep every night and I end up having to satisfy myself all the time. I work with a lot of males and I'm attracted to one in particular and we've started chatting on Facebook and I know this is evil but I hid most evidence of me being married before I accepted his friend request. I don't think I'd cheat but I'm craving the attention! Im a good looking girl with a really laid back attitude and I feel my husband doesn't appreciate at all what he has.. should I stay or just be over and out?