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I work in an office, and it recently hired a bunch of people. One of the new employees is a woman, who walks by my desk everyday around the sometime after this one huge meeting. One day she walked up to me, and said jokingly: "Do you live here?" We talked, had a few laughs, and the next day she came to my desk after excusing herself from the meeting and talked to me. I asked her if she wanted to do something on the weekend, and she gave the old "Maybe, I am really busy due to huge work load blah blah blah..., but you should call me to make sure." Took it as a no. So on the following Monday she comes to my desk, and asks me what I did on the weekend. She said she didn't do anything. So the next day I sat next to her in the meeting, and her guy friend made a big stink about it. I could hear him, while in the room, scream in the hall: "He took my spot!" So I promptly got up and sat with a friend. The guy kept touching her so I assumed they were dating. Now the damn guys glaring at me everywhere I go!

So I backed off, and got a change in attitude from her. She became distant, but today she laughed really hard, and it's hard not to look up from the noise. She then said: "sorry, Shawn!" only to be corrected by her friend, who knows me far less, that my name is Shane. Do women still do that: "Oh, I named you wrongly, because secretly I like you" shit? I remember in high school people did that, but i don't know. Opinions?

I was in an abusive relationship with my ex boyfriend for a little less than three years when I was a teen. He was initially very charming, always attentive, but he became increasingly controlling after some time. He began to strike me as a narcissist. It was always about what he wanted to do with his life, I was merely an accessory to string along when convenient. He needed to be the center of attention all the time, or things were not ok. This made him very difficult to have around friends, I lost many for even associating with someone that many people described as egoistical and manipulative (he was a new student at my high school). Soon after we began having sex, I found him to be pushy and he would often give me puppy dog eyes when I wasn't in the mood. I was guilted into having sex with him more often than I'd like to admit, it just didn't feel worth fighting the childish tantrum of pouting that would ensue if I rejected him. I was often sore from receiving after these times, I told him it was uncomfortable, but he never seemed concerned. I became afraid of him over time, as his attitude towards the word "No" had become about more than sex. He would attempt to grab my phone from me if I was texting other people, read my messages if he could weasel it away from me to "check if I was cheating on him" and it got to a point that I didn't even feel like I should have my phone on my person when he was around. I hid it between the bed frame and my mattress often. If he knew I used certain websites, he would make accounts and stalk me as well. I broke up with him about two to three years ago. A few days ago, someone must have given him my new number, he messaged me asking if I would consider selling a ring he bought me back to him. Friends tell me to sell it to him or turn it in to a pawn shop, but family members feel like I should just give it to him because "it's his". I just blocked him and moved on, but what would you all do?