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It all started this fall with a church friend who's name was let's say Nate who I asked to Homecoming as I liked him and we were becoming friends. He liked me at the time but I didn't know until later. Nate and I were so close to dating but then I started rehearsing for a musical I was in and was literally swept off my feet by another guy. (Jack) so them came the decision between Nate and Jack. Let's just say I chose very wrong and friendzoned Nate before even really getting to know Jack. Nate blew up a little and I felt really bad. Jack ended up treating me like crap and I wanted to go back to Nate but he already had another girl he was interested in. So I told my best friend of 3 years that I might be interested in more than a friendship and he said I have loved you this whole time. We almost dated on the spot however we were hesitant because we didn't want yo ruin our amazing friendship and he can be a little dirty and he jokes around with me a lot. Not in a bad way. So I overheard at church that some other guy was trying to get between Nate and this new girls relationship. i hadn't talked to him since he blew up on me for friend zoning him. I pulled him aside at church and poured my heart out to him and said if there was any chance his other relationship didn't work out that I would be there if he wanted to take me back and he said to give him time but he hears what I was saying. Now after seeing Nate and this other girl blossom in their relationship even as someone tries to get in between them I realize how much I miss him and want him back now more than ever. But them I still have my best friend who admits to actually loving me this whole time and i don't know which guy to pursue more. Nate is extremely attractive but not available at the moment, and mark is sweet and he loves me but I am not as attracted to him and we don't want to ruin our friendship. I need some advice/guidance.
Thanks in advance for reading this!

So freshman year I had dated a guy and we went out for almost six months. There was only one or two kisses in the entire relationship so it can't be classified as a relationship just for sexual things. Anyways I broke up with him and then a month later I get a phone call. It was a sexual phone call about how he wanted to have sex with me. I felt so dirty and slutty and awful from that call. Add insult to injury I got this call at 2am on my birthday and I was not awake so it was a voicemail that I had to listen to and then share with my parents. My dad went over played the voicemail for my ex's dad. It was promised that no one else would ever find out about it. It was mostly his friends and he was laughing in the background and he said some sexual things. My current bf is friends with my ex who made the call. My ex told my current bf about the call in front of him and two other friends. I was fine that they knew it didn't bother me. Until I was told that my ex thought I overreacted after I said my parents and I both forgave the call. I told my current bf about the call because when me , my bf, my ex and a few other friends hung out it was kinda awkward. My current bf knew how much it hurt me and that I had cried when I had to tell him. My current bf didn't say anything to stop my ex from talking about it or at all defend me. I thought he knew that my ex had spoken in the call not just laughed but didn't and that's the reason he says he didn't respond. I expected him to take my side and he says he can't take either side and will only be neutral. The reason why is he can't listen to the voicemail so he doesn't know who is telling the truth. I feel that he should take my side or at least stop his friend my ex /defend me and he says he's not a part of it. It's between me and my ex but I feel that my bf should believe me. So after reading all of that do you think my bf should be allowed to remain neutral.