Guys. Why can't you take a hint? Denial?

[Anonymous]

Why can't guys take hints? -_-
Girls literally have to say 'I don't like you now, never have and never will' before a guy even considers that she doesn't want him and even then he won't fucking stop!

I went to the movies with a dude who was super creepy in the end and he has texted me about ten times over the past several months even though I won't reply. He also called at least twice.
Him: hey
hey
heyyy
ayyy
what's up
hey
pssst
hey
answer me
hey
hi how are you

What the actual fuck? Why can't guys take hints?
I straight up told another guy I didn't like him and he said he'd "wait for me to make up my mind" and then asked me out again a month later.
I don't get it! Its not even that they don't take hints; some guys blatantly ignore rejection.

Guys. here's the truth.
No means no
I have a bf means no
I'm not dating right now means no
I'm gay means no
ignoring all your texts and calls means no
go away you creep means no
dirty looks mean no

[JohnStamoist]

Asker I must thank you for this thread, the lulz were great!

So aside from the stupid information you've gotten, this is how you approach the situation. You tell the guy you are not interested in him in that way, and that's that. If he keeps pestering you with texts and calls then just ignore them or block him, that simple.

I understand this hasn't worked in the past, but ignoring someone's texts and calls without telling them you are not interested is utterly fucking disrespectful. At least give the guy that, and if he keeps bothering you then treat him like the loser he is and cut him out completely.

In defense to the dirty look thing you are usually right about that meaning no, but I received one from a girl once because she thought I was someone else. Only reason I said anything in the first place is because she sat down next to me to smoke hookah with the bitchiest face ever. I didn't offend her in anyway and only glanced at her once, my friend pointed out the dirty look directed towards me. So I was intrigued what the fuck I had done to deserve that, once we squashed the misconception we hit it off great.

[eddzeeman]

Whatever happened to just saying No? Save you time and his. No one likes being ignored. So WOMEN UP, Grow some ovaries, and tell him straight. "Im not interested" will do fine.

[Asker]

Read the question. I told another guy no and he still wouldn't stop.

[Asker]

I'm sure that's my fault as well.

[eddzeeman]

If you did tell him, then he's just ignorant

[Anonymous]

Because some of them have blimp sized egos and cannot believe that a woman could possibly not be interested in them. That's why when you reject a man some will instantly retaliate and say things like "You're too ugly anyway." "You're fat." Etc.

[Asker]

You forgot "you're a slut'

[Kythe]

And guys who say stuff like that are likely the first to wonder why they can't get dates :) Pretty ridiculous.

[meatballs21]

"I'm dropping hints, why won't this guy talk to me?"
"I'm dropping hints, why won't this guy leave me alone?"

Your case illustrates why playing hard to get is a stupid idea - that's possibly what he thinks you're doing.

[Asker]

No. You're an idiot if you think a girl ignoring your texts for five straight months is playing hard to get

[Asker]

Or if a girl saying she isn't interested in you on more than one occasion and never accepting your invites is playing hard to get.

[meatballs21]

Yup, probably. I have encountered guys who think that being relentless is somehow romantic, since it is 'proving' their love for her.

[Asker]

Not an excuse in my book.

[Kythe]

Well, more to the point, it does indicate why telepathy isn't a reliable form of interaction.

Although, in this case, I have to agree that five months of no response probably should mean SOMETHING.

[Asker]

@kythe if I say I'm not interested I get a "I'll wait until you are" or "why? I'll fix whatever it is. " its childish and stupid. I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't.

[Kythe]

I could certainly see that as being annoying. On the other hand, given the number of posts on here from people who say they get no attention at all, I'd have to hope there's a middle ground somewhere.

[meatballs21]

Asker: I agree. I had an extremely long and pointless argument with a complete imbecile who insisted we were 'cowards' for accepting a 'no' from a girl and no longer pursuing her, and could not understand why keeping after her would be seen as intimidating, stalkerish, potentially illegal. He simply would not see sense and maintained his stance that we were not bold enough, and that it could be true love like in the a romance novel. I really, really feel sorry for any girl he encounters.

[Asker]

@kythe if you're implying I should be thankful for this harassment then you're ridiculous.

[Asker]

I don't know where that ridiculous attitude comes from opinion owner :(

[meatballs21]

Asker: Movies. Dating sims. Just fiction in general. They show persistence being rewarded.

[Kythe]

Harassment? No, I don't think you should be (as I posted above, 5 months of hints probably should have been more than enough).

I'm simply noting the irony of how different people deal with different circumstances.

[Kythe]

I did appreciate the "I'm gay" approach, as well.

[Asker]

@kythe I actually haven't used that yet.

[Asker]

@kythe I actually haven't used that yet..

[Kythe]

Hmmm... well, considering what you're describing in this question is close to stalking behavior, it might be worth a shot. On the other hand, it probably wouldn't be any more successful.

Actually, I do think @meatballs21 has a larger cultural point: generally speaking, guys are supposed to chase girls. Many times, it's expected. Take a guy who might not be all that stable to begin with and fill his head with that, and you may end up with a dangerous situation, or at least a very annoying one (may be hard to tell one from the other).

At any rate, I hope the guy (s) in question eventually took the hints.

[Shyguy_1988]

Yea, since all guys are like that. This thread is pointless and happened because you went on a date with a guy who is oblivious to the world and obviously doesn't interact with girls that often and really likes you. Just tell him how you really feel, he won't bother you anymore. Some guys you need to be straight forward with.

[Asker]

I referenced two guys in the question but its happened with several more.

[Shyguy_1988]

Mmmhmm, you're doing it wrong! :D

[Asker]

Yeah if you could read. You'd see that I rejected a guy with words and he still wouldn't give up.

[Asker]

Mhmmmmmmm so the guys are just big babies that can't take no for an answer :S

[Shyguy_1988]

Yep, all guys are just big babies that take no for an answer. Either that, or the guys that are attracted to you are big babies, just saying! Seriously though, most guys I know can take hints, someone ignores me, I'm not wasting my time trying to contact them again. If someone gives me bad body language, I won't even try contacting them again.

[Anonymous]

I never had a girl that I was pursuing tell me she didn't like me. I'd had several girls ignore my phone calls/text messages only to come back and literally stalk me after I cut them loose. I had girls be mean to me and basically fall in love with me and become obsessed. Soooo... What you are saying is doesn't mean shit. Every girl is different, and half of your gender is fucking nuts and doesn't know what they want.

[Opinion Owner]

*I've

[Asker]

Lol shut up with your fairy tales. Either that or you go for crazy ass girls.

[Asker]

We're nuts? Ok. I mean its not like y'all will blow up phones and schedule dates with girls that won't return your calls

[Opinion Owner]

There's a lot of crazy bitches out there. From reading your post you don't sound all that sane either... Why are you dating a guy you thought was creepy? That's called crazy...

[Asker]

I didn't think he was creepy when I went to the movies with him quite obviously.

[Asker]

wasn't until halfway through the movie.

[Opinion Owner]

lol, why did he try to kiss you? What makes someone seem normal when you meet them, when you talk on the phone for a week, he picks you up probably pays for you, now you're half way through the movie and he's a bad seed? What triggered your doubt?

[Asker]

You're so good at assumptions buttercup.
I didn't talk to him for a week prior.
Met him one day and we chatted in a group for like 20 minutes. Super nice. Then he got my number. We only texted about our lives like where we were from and college etc. Next night he said meet me at the movies? And I was like sure.
Half way through he slid his hand straight up my thigh and tried to inch it closer to my goodies.
So I slapped his hand and left not long after that wordlessly.

[Opinion Owner]

Then you're just not very good at the entire dating thing or figuring people out. Tough shit, you were lazy and now you have to deal with the repercussions.

[Asker]

The fuck? He didn't do anything creepy.
Was I supposed to ask him if he was planning on trying to molest me?
You sound like a rapist

[Opinion Owner]

You've proven yourself to be dumb. It's no surprise you to me that you have a target on your back. You'll inevitably run into more problems in the future.

[Asker]

A target on my back? What the fuck?
Man you need HELP

[Opinion Owner]

You need a brain.

[Asker]

You need a smack upside the head

[Opinion Owner]

Like I said you're fucking crazy. You talk crazy, when someone tells you that you want to physically assault them. You're classic crazy.

[Asker]

Okay lol. You can't take a joke so

[Opinion Owner]

I joke around a lot. That wasn't a joke though, you're crazy and dumb. That's not going to change any time soon.

[Asker]

Right.

[Opinion Owner]

Girls that talk about smacking men, usual do. You're abusive... I'd say it's karma coming back around your way.

[Asker]

I've never hit a guy. Or a girl. Or anything or anyone so yeah.

[Opinion Owner]

You just said you smacked the guy at the movie. Which one is it, get your damn story straight you liar.

[Asker]

Smacked his hand away after he molested me so yeah. Touch me inappropriately without permission and you will get smacked

[Opinion Owner]

Crazy, liar, and dumb... What a combo...

[Opinion Owner]

People claim that you can only get brains, beauty or stability... In your case brains and stability are way off the table. I guess your only hope is being smoking hot, which explains why people are trying to only use you for your body.

[Opinion Owner]

2 of the 3 that is...

[Error_204]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dcge47yeCgo

But, girl.

[Asker]

Your point.

[Error_204]

I just want to marry you. :(

[investyazzy]

youu sounnd meaan :(((

[Asker]

I'm not, I swear. I'm just mad right now lol.

[investyazzy]

its fine doe. most guys are dumb tho soo i get where you are coming from :')