Why can't guys take the hint?

[Anonymous]

if guys won't take the hint that you don't like them, what do you say to get them to stop.

[ShotgunJames]

Girls leave things like this open ended so guys think hmm is this a test and try harder. In no ambiguous terms look the guy in the face because we don't get hints direct and tough is the best approach. Say listen asshole I have tried nice, I have tried hints and that doesn't work so listen. I don't like you, I don't want to be with you and no matter what you do I won't date you. You honestly disgust me and I don't want anything to do with you now leave me alone or something more or less along those lines. Should work like a charm you might be labeled a bitch but hey if it works

[Crimson811]

Nope not necessarily. I told a guy point blank that I wasn’t interested in him, and he still wouldn’t leave me alone. Another I left pretty obvious hints that wasn’t into him, that didn’t work. We tell you all the time, you just don’t listen, or read in between the lines because it isn’t the answer that you want.

[MandMandM]

They aren't telepathic.

1) Decide if you do / don't want to be friends.

2) If not a simple "this is never going to happen, and I don't even enjoy being around you" may sting him short term, but long term will save you both a lot of time and hassle.

3) If you want to be friends only, tell him that you are prepared to be that, but you want to date other people, and he should not spend years in the hope you'll change your mind. You may end up with a friend, or with a guy who decides he doesn't want to put himself any further through the mill with you.

[walkmywalk24]

i would just kindly tell him "sorry, but I don't really like you. I would still love to be friends, but I don't think of you in 'that way'."

hope this helps!

[ItalianBro]

"sorry, but I don't really like you." is enough, you can leave out the petty bullsh*t (I would still love to be friends). If the guy likes her than he doesn't want to be just her friend... How do you think he will feel when she starts dating other guys... you need to tell him direct and make him think he doesn't have any chance, so he can move on. Its obvious that she doesn't want to be his friend... she doesn't even want him to talk to her.

[Icaro]

^Exactly what he said.

[Crimson811]

@ItalianBro Honestly, How he feels when she starts dating other guys isn't her problem. I could understand if they were a couple at one point, but they weren't. So it's really none of his business who she dates. You know what I'm saying?

[thisGUYknows]

guys who don't have a lot of experience might take a little longer to get the hint. it depends what you wanna do. if he seems nice but your just not interested in him then you can do it politely (somewhat) by changing the subject or ignoring him, talking to someone else completely leaving him out of it. but if he's a wanna be player and just keeps trying then just make fun of him lol. give him that look that says he'll never get you. you can even tell him.

[alltheabove1212]

You need to be MORE direct. Girls are dumb with this stuff. If you like a guy, you do some similar things that you would do if you DIDN'T like a guy. So how are we to differentiate?

So be more direct with what you want

[Asker]

but how! like I make excuses not to go and ignore when he inboxes me on facebook. He has a criminal record and is really intimidating. I just don't know what to say without flattering myself

[alltheabove1212]

if a guy's desperate, he'll make up excuses as to why you didn't go. It's like he'll find little ways to convince himself you definitely like him. Just say something like "Hey, I appreciate the offer, but I'm not interested in you. Sorry for the misunderstanding."

[Crimson811]

Guys are dumb when it comes to taking hints! And I've dropped some pretty obvious ones to guys, like never calling them when they asked me

[JewFroJoey]

Here's what you do. Next time you see the guy, pull him aside. Then look him straight in the eyes and say "I'm sorry, but you're a creepy motherf***er. Your face looks like an ass. Now leave me alone." He should understand by that point.

[MissRed13]

that's the super direct approach!

[JewFroJoey]

Exactly! No ambiguity whatsoever!

[Mr-Blob]

Easy, you just say NI I"M A LESBIAN, then he'll probably stop

[Anonymous]

coze girls play hard to get and we don't always know what you wan't.

one day you like us the next you don't .

[Anonymous]

i have a boyfriend. works every time