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I’ve seen many things I don’t want to see especially when out in public, I was out with my sister (she’s few years older than me) running an errand a few years ago and while standing in line, she started cracking up and I wanted to know what she was laughing at, she pointed out a girl to me and whispered to me “I can tell that that girl in the gray leggings is wearing underwear, I can see the lines in her leggings, you see it?” I could see it but I didn’t think anything of it, so I asked and she started talking about how girls aren’t supposed to wear underwear if they’re gonna wear leggings and that it looks weird and funny if you see it in public with most types and designs and styles of leggings and that girls usually don’t wear underwear unless the leggings make it almost impossible to see and notice any underwear lines, and that most girls who do it are probably on their period. So over some time that led me to bring it up in conversation with my best friend (who’s a female), my older sister (as is what brings me to post this), another close female friend, in addition to a small number of some of my close female friends, as well as a few dozen random females I happen to interact with online, and the answers and opinions I got aren’t what I’d expected. Right around 75% to even 85%-90% of the time the responses were that they don’t usually wear underwear if they wear leggings. In my question, I asked them to just give an answer taking nothing else into consideration, not what they’d be doing that day, where they’d be going, the brand/style and design of the leggings or underwear, whether or not they were on their period, none of that or anything else, just If they put on or had underwear on when they put on leggings the majority of the time. (I didn’t ask my sister, but her answer was obvious) I’m just kinda surprised that most girls don’t wear underwear if they wear leggings. So I’d like to hear from more women because I’m genuinely curious.

Hello, I am 17 years old and about to turn 18 in April. So, I never had a girlfriend (like literally ever; not even a fling). I've been trying to find one for 9 months and it has not been working out at all. I've been rejected about 7 or 8 times now. I tried out dating apps and I fucking despise them because they're unfair for guys. Lately, I've been sliding in girls DM's and I noticed the girls are not as picky. I was talking to this one girl and I got rejected by her because our interests didn't match up, but the physical attraction was there. Lately, I've been thinking that sliding in girls DM's won't work forever. So, I thought about it some more and I thought "If I slide in a girls DM'S, they might already have tinder or whatever app downloaded and why would they settle for me when they can get a dude way more attractive than me". Lately, I've come to a conclusion about me just calling it quits and hanging up the towel. One of my friends have already called it quits for dating. Like with these apps and women's crazy standards, it seems like a very good option to go for. One of my friends is telling me to don't quit. I just don't know what to do. I think that I'm ugly because I used to be made fun of for my face back in middle school. From boys and girls. I Remember one time, one kid looked at my face and said "Dude! What the fuck is wrong with your face?". In college, I noticed one time this girl was trying to avoid me. I don't know because it was my face or not. I did a rate me from 1-10 with 3 girls, one of them gave me a 5, 2nd gave me a 7, and the last one gave me an 8.5. I even thought about when I quit, I just thought about just letting myself to go. I want to bulk up and not worry about being fat. I want to pack on some muscle and get bigger. Should I stop dating and let myself go? If you think I shouldn't, where am I supposed to meet girls?