I haven't had exactly the same struggles as Demi Lovato but it has been a long road to accepting myself and realizing most likely I will always be a square peg in a round hole world and that's ok
I feel bad that it took almost 60 years to get there but that is just part of the circle of negative thoughts that can start going around in my head. An old bad habit. A brain slip that I have to catch and say stop poof be gone As Demi says it's beating yourself up mentally.
It comes down learning to not give a F____. about what people think about you or if they think you should act a certain way.
I'm not talking about flipping people off or being unkind but setting boundaries so we don't absorb other people's negativity or get connected with energy vampires or energy zappers if they are our friends.
We might back slide, make mistakes when we start changing ourselves and people might not be comfortable the new us or the true self we are exposing to the them.
It's easy to want to fall back into the cocoon or in some cases the fetal position of safety or chaos that we've become accustomed to but it is important not to be swayed by our pull back to familiarity or to conform to the people around us.
It can seem like our progress is slow or non existent in getting to where we want to be.
Why does everyone else move so fast toward their goal in an seemingly effortless way we might ask ourselves. The reality is we don't know what is going on in their head. For some they hide their self doubt very well. For others it is very easy to move forward but it isn't the same path we might be taking or at our own personal speed. Tiny, minisucle steps might be frustrating but eventually before you know it you will have arrived at the next step.
I think this is more of a pep talk to myself than anyone one else but hopefully my talking out loud will get some one else thinking about self love and care.
You see now I can only be myself and open book but not a doormat. I don't have footprints on my forehead as I used to say.
I continue to care for those around me who treat me with respect. Being nice is not a dirty word as long as you practice love and self care for yourself and set boundaries.
Don't let anyone rain on your parade.
Do you think you can give yourself some grace today?
Or maybe you can give someone else some grace today.
The last part of my post was a bit Kumbaya (a 70s reference)