I used to be a really shy, awkward kid who first described herself as an ugly and boring person to a psychologist when I was only 9 years old. I've been bullied many times in my life because I was different. I'm still different than the rest but back then I didn't have any social skills to defend myself. I got anorexia when I was 11 and since then I had an obsession with my body for many years. I went through really dark days where nothing was fine to me and I even tried to commit suicide,one time almost succesfuly when I was 14 because I hated myself so much. Besides anorexia I also developed some social traumas due to bullying, so I didn't really have friends to count on. I've struggled so many years of my youth to finally feel good in my own body, with my own unique self. Today I can comfortably say that I'm in love with myself, I love being who I am.
1- Drama classes
Drama classes helped me express myself better and interact with other people. It also helped me to show my inner self and stop being shy.
Hit the gym, play soccer, tennis, go hiking, running, etc whatever you like. It makes you relieve stress and it also will make you look better and feel better. Don't over though it though, it's not good for you and remember that results are seen after some months.
Even If it sounds crazy to you right now I can prove it's true. You learn a lot about self love from them. Their purring is amazingly comforting too and it even has proven health aid effects.
4- Let go of Fake friends
You need to identify this kind of people who only suck out the good vibes from your life while pretending to like you and be your friend while they talk behind your back, low your self esteem, use you for their own benefit and/or potentiate destructive behaviors of you.
5- I mastered my abilities
I have always been good playing music, singing, painting and drawing so I practiced them all until I improved my hability in each one of them and that made me love myself more.
6- Stop paying attention to what people say
Whatever bad thing they say about you think they only talk behind your back because you are ahead of them and better than them.
7- Talking to strangers
It was scary for me to get rejected If I did this (at a new school, new party, friends house, etc) but the more I did it the more I relaxed when talking to people and could say what was on my mind freely. Currently I have no problems to talk to just anyone and hold a conversation with them.
8- Read about the topics you like. Make yourself smarter
I love reading history, the news, articles, classic books, fun novels. It makes me learn more things to talk about and form a stronger opinion about everything so I can win arguments. People love smart people.
9- After the storm comes sunshine
You will find a solution to every problem in your life, you just try to choose the most logical one between the possible solutions. Everytime you feel sad, overwhelmed, angry try these exercises.
It helped me so much. If you are stressed out stretch before doing it. Sit straight and cross your legs. You should be in a quiet, warm and dark place. Put some proper music (I recommend Yellow Brick Cinema channel on youtube) Light a white candle and close your eyes. Breath in deeply slowly until you can't anymore, hold it for 5 seconds and then slowly breath it out while visualizing a blue light surrounding your body and focusing only in the music. It takes practice to do a succesful meditation so maybe you'll want to start with 7 minutes and then increase the time until you master it. My mind has become a lot more possitive and I've improved my memory and concentration.
Take dance classes, it doesn't matter If you have never did it, just go to your favorite music's dance style class and enjoy.
to be continued