Search Results: learn from my mistakes

Let me first state, I am not posting this to offend anyone. I actually want to get some feedback from both trans and non-trans people. So if you're an asshole, leave. I'm trying to learn something.

Is our society becoming "gender neutral", or going into "gender denial"?

There are certain qualities that men/women generally excel in due to biology (brain development, hormone levels, etc); however I feel it is okay for those who go against the grain to embrace their unique qualities, without identifying as another sex, i. e. "a woman that is physically capable of passing the men's military PT should be allowed to join the military as a woman" or "a very nurturing father should be allowed to be a stay-at-home-dad, instead of being called "Mr. Mom". I don't feel it is necessary to change one's "gender identity" just because they have qualities belonging to the opposite sex. Males and females can have things in common.

I don't understand how a man can feel like a woman, if the primary purpose of having opposite sexes is for copulation. If that is true, then a man cannot feel like a woman, ever. It would have to be identification in more superficial societal norms. Isn't saying "I'm a femme guy" easier than saying "On the outside I'm a guy, but on the inside I am a girl. My body is a mistake, and I plan to get surgery to remedy that". I don't think surgery can ever remedy that, because a transperson can never reproduce again. Ever.
Wouldn't it just be easier to let guys be pretty and girls be butch, rather than to force them to see themselves differently just because society doesn't like their appearance, or find their behavior unrelatable?

Neither my partner nor I are trans, but we are androgynous as a unit. He's kind of feminine, and I'm kind of masculine. But we both accept that about each other, and know who we are. I bought him a pretty pashmina coat for Christmas, and he helps me gun shop to find one right for my needs.

Why isn't this ^ more of a thing?

It all starts out with most women preferring players, fuckbois and assholes over the good guys because, well, I dont know why.

But the good men are the ones who are trampled in the process. Because they are turned down because who wants nice guys right?

It would have been a more equal I playground if the good girls wouldn't friend zone the ones that love and respect them for those who dont respect them and see them just as easy sex.

This leads to the good guys suffer from low self esteem and eventually not wanting to take the initiative at all, and you can't blame them for it.
You can hear quotes like,

"I know he is a player, but I want him , i dont know what it is"

These are the same girls that get their heart broken or used for sex and then dumped, and who are the ones that they got to for a shoulder to cry on?
You are right,
THE GOOD GUYS


Then it is followed by statements like,
" I am never going to find a good guy who loves me and doesn't play with my emotions "
The good guy builds up the courage to show his feelings towards her when she recovers from her 'bad boy dumped me' phase and what happens?
Wham!!
" how dare you? Get away from me, I thought you cared about me"



Another blow to the poor guy.
And thus pseudo hurt female goes back to dating fuckbois and after having completely shattered , who does she expect to step in and treat her right?
You guessed it right, the good guy. Who she hurt time and time again, but he stood by her even though it hurt him to bits.


And if he refuses to take her as a partner, then ohhh my lord FEMINISM. The rambling about slut shaming starts and blaming all men for judging women for the past relationships and how all men just want sex.
The worst part
NOTE:
I am not saying that all women are like this, some learn their lesson before its too late, some know what they want and they stay away from fuckbois because they learn from the mistakes of others.

I'd like to hear your views and opinions about it.