Search Results: 3 guys to choose from

Within the last year, I have been chatting with a guy , I dated as a teen. We have been speaking online, Skype, and via telephone, to the point that I have fallen in love with him. However, every time we get close he stops talking with me, for a month (s) and I always have to reached out to him, first (example: the other night he finally said he has intense feelings for me, which is unusual for him because he doesn't express himself and I haven't heard for him , after this revelation, although I have called and texted him). He knows I love him dearly and if I had to choose, I want my life with him. He knows I do not expect him to say he loves me too, just because that is how I feel (no pressures from me, I am an intense person, at times.) Prior , he expressed that he always wanted to be with me, and how if we progressed he wants a life with me. I go in between three different scenarios, as of why we cannot progress they are: 1) he is afraid because he had a very bad relationship, with someone he loved years ago (men tend to carry their baggage a very long time) 2) he is playing games with me because he is upset, still, I did not like him a lot when we dated as teens and now that I am interested, he is having a field day with me (I know immature , but people are out for revenge sometimes) 3) He is seeing someone else, but afraid to tell me because he still wants me around and knows I will not continue to talk to him , if that is the case (no he isn't the player type, but sometimes someone doesn't exhibit those qualities to you and really are like that... you only really know what you do and what someone else tells you). My question is why does he keep pulling away, every time when make progress? ps: we are doing a long distance 'thing' because he just came back from overseas (fighting for our country) and we are in different states, so no physical interaction has taken place.

I was talking to both of these guys. The first one is at a college 3 hours away, the second is 20 minutes from me. First guy we get along great but he says he is as sexual as me just won't try anything new. Second guy is just as sexual as me but he goes above and beyond what the other guys limits are. Second guy is now jealous and annoyed that I moved on so quick. 2 weeks ago I asked the second guy What we were going to be and he said he isn't looking for anything until he gets on his feet financially and emotionally. Which I understand. He said we could also be friends, and now we don't talk much at all. Either way I lose both guys. The first one said that he isn't going to wait around for me and won't talk to me if we don't date because he has enough friends. I miss the second guy for what he was.. Can I get some guidance to help me pick? Thank you.

We will call them as 'Y' and 'P'.

Y is a flirt but he is really nice at heart and he treat me as his one and only best friend and care for me a lot but i love him madly and he knows it but as he want to join Buddhism[he will won't marry anyone] in future he said "i can't be with you i like you but i am not the right one."

P is a nice guy and he as a crush on me from past 3 years he never flirts with any girl and he just talk to me whole day[i attend his call if i am free] and he knows that i am not into him but he still wants to be my friend and he is nice even actually perfect.

P treats me like i am the one and i too treats Y as same but Y ignores it and i ignore P efforts.