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I have a group of friends that have always joked about my sister and when I finally found out by my mom a few weeks ago that one of them is dating my sister it put me in shock. It felt like betrayal and a total punch to the face for trust between us. I honestly don’t think I could ever look at him the same again for not asking me first about doing something like this and then it turns out he isn’t even the one to tell me for how I found out!

The rest of the friends are puzzled as to why it bothers me but they don’t have a sister to relate the whole situation to. They think I’m overreacting but trust is really important to me and this totally breached that.

I recently got back in touch with an old female friend of mine after living far away for a few years. I asked her about her city as a potential place to move. Always had feelings for her but she was with a guy for the last 7 years. Was always a strange friendship with her acting hot and cold all the time.

I was happy that when I asked about traffic in her city she gave me more information than I wanted to hype the place up. Even agreed to show me around if I made a trip. She oddly told me she hated dating out of the blue which I basically ignored and din't pry much into. She dated a guy during the summer so didn't talk to me much. I understood but it bothered me he was like me in uncomfortable ways.

Tried not to think about it but then I would see her mom of all people in my store. She even stops me once to talk about why I'm back in town. She talked to me for a long time, I had to walk away after 15 minutes being on the clock. Didn't know she even knew I moved. When the boy is out of the picture I get re-intouch with my friend who had changed her phone number (don't know if its related to the guy).

She's more bubbly this time giving me her work schedule, smiley faces, and telling me to tell her when I come down. Even admits her old boyfriend dragged her down (they never made sense) but because our relationship was always weird I continue only responding platonic and neutral, even tho I still like her, because I'd rather see her in person before throwing anything flirtatious her way. I didn't want to make my move to her city about her and get it in my head we'd be good frieds or more as I half-suspected she was just lonely working 7 day weeks between two jobs.

She suggested some date like actiivities for us to do if I went down but still haven't because of an awful work schedule and uncertainty over her. Now she doesn't talk to me at all after I got in my feelings and let it slip I still have feeling for her.