First off this isn't about dating . This is about having high standards in life.
Obviously it isn't all bad , it means I only accept the best and give my all and be the best I can which most of the time pays off.
But some bad things do come out from having high standards.
1. People are worse than I expected them to be like
I have high standards for friends. It is why I do not have many friends and thank God I do not have useless friends sticking around my life not knowing how to get rid of them, which a lot of people seem to suffer from .
If you disappoint me , I won't completely abandon you , but I will definitely lose respect for you.
I usually expect all people to be respectful , well put together , confident , not completely clueless in life and actually have high standards for themselves as well.
This one bothers me so much , because it just sucks to run into people like that.
Some types I immediately just drift apart from.
So far my real friends whom I kept have all been hardworking individuals who have good self awareness
2. People do not understand my high standards
If I take an exam I consider easy and stupid , I am usually criticizing it from a very professional point of view. Others think it's difficult and I'm boasting , but in reality it's just that their standards are low .
If I show passion and love for something and be a go getter and pursue it nonstop till I get it , people are confused as to why I am doing so and they do not understand why.
This is also quite disappointing of others , but I have learned to understand not everyone gets it.
3. People with low standards try to guilt you
Let's think about it for a second , if I accept a terrible offer I would only be bringing myself down. Why would I do that? How will I continue to advance and grow , be the best I can be , if I stoop down to the level of someone with lower standards than me?
Is that harsh to say? Yep. But that's life baby , you gotta grow up and see that..
People trying to guilt me and bring me down to their level , as if my high standards are a bad thing , are people I try to distance myself from as much as possible .
Sometimes I do feel bad , but as I said life is hard and you have to be able to do things like this as an adult.
4. Confusing high standards for arrogance
Believe me when I say even though I have high standards , I am not arrogant at all.
Some of the best people I've met were simple people , uneducated , farmers , poor etc. I still have friends like that , and will continue to talk to anybody because you can learn something from everyone.
However what i will not do , is to get down to someone else's level and lower my standards.
I put my personal needs above everyone else's , that doesn't make me a bad person. That just makes me human.
High standards are not a bad thing , on the contrary actually. They have helped me get through a lot in life and I encourage everyone to have high expectations for others and for themselves.
You do not have to be the richest or the finest of people to have high standards and do better , I respect those who set the bar higher for themselves so they can achieve more and better in life , but not those who get too comfortable in where they are right now and never think of the future or bettering themselves .