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The classical psychology theories say that a girl's formative years (around 18 months to 8 years old I believe, or something like that) play a key role in how her female-to-male relationships and dynamics will play out in later life... and that the father, as her first male role model, acts like a symbolic representation of what men should be like. So by this logic, girls with abusive fathers date abusive men in adulthood, girls with submissive fathers date submissive men, etc.

But it seems to me that girls will often fall back onto patterns established around the time of puberty; ie: their "high school years". Since this is the time when girls really begin to feel male attention as an ongoing presence, and come to see themselves as sexual beings, with the ability to arouse desire in men (and, perhaps, in certain women).

In my own experience, I've seen girls I've dated act out female-male dynamics that have roots in their pubescent years (12-16 seems to be the recurring age range with the most influence). But I've noticed those same girls act different around their fathers than they do around me. It seems more like they're trying to recreate 'playground' relationships rather than 'father-daughter' relationships-- only adulthood introduces extra layers of complexity on top of the original imprinted behaviors.

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First dates can arouse some anxiety. What will they be like? How will they act? Are they loud and obnoxious? Etc. If you have not previously met them, and have not previously seen them, you have even more reasons to be concerned.

I have had a first date with a woman I met online. Her pictures were fairly cute but when she showed up, it was obvious that those pictures had been taken about a 100 pounds ago! It might not have been such a huge problem if she had been honest up front about her size. I had a first date with a lady who was just as cute as her pictures on POF, but I'm not sure she stopped talking more than 30 seconds during our date. Another first date (the only coffee date I ever had) opened her mouth and it looked like her teeth had not been cleaned or even brushed in 30+ years; the idea of kissing her was disgusting!

Have you had a bad first date experience?