First of all I am not American so this is based on not only America but on where I am from plus the opinions of others from other countries as well that share their stories online .
There are men out there that lie, cheat and use girls i agree with that, but those men are few and and far in between, and the ones who turn that way usually do it cause of being hurt countless times by women.
I have been in the dating scene for years and had a couple gfs myself plus plenty of dates, I saw women marrying as young as 19 and ones marry in their late twenties, but one thing i noticed plenty of women do and that is (Not sure if on purpose or not) they want instant gratification and end up losing great men in the process not to mention getting a bad reputation as well.
Lets talk about reputation before we get to the root of the problem (In my opinion), Women iam giving you free advice, you have been lied to big time, equality doesn't exist, iam sorry but once you unleash your inner h0e you lose, men talk and they talk way too much sometimes, you have no idea how many times i wanted to date a girl only to be told by someone to just pump and dump and she's no wife material, i told the same to guys i know too, its the BRO CODE, we have each others backs and the only ones losing are the women who decide to act sl*tty ... trust me even in other cities you will have a reputation and once it happens its hard to just forget about it and overlook it .
Now I am gonna talk about the real issue in my opinion and the reason so many women can't seem to find happiness and can't find "good" men as they put it ... First of all what is a good man ?
A good man to a woman is :
1- Attractive enough
2- Good job, wealthy, has his own car and house
3- Charming, confident, sexy, mysterious and cool
4- Popular. high status and influential
5- Loves her and is loyal to her only
These men exist but in very small numbers, perfection does not exist and looking for a man like that is a waste of time at best, a lot of women don't wanna work hard or build a future, they don't see the potential in a man and end up dropping him thinking they have "options" but ladies options are only an illusion to some of you and you don't seem to realize that , women nowadays go on social media, look at the amount of likes and messages they get and say " well i have options I don't need to settle for less"..... these men just want one thing : sex .
i know plenty of men who are considered perfect by women and at some point in their lives they were poor, low status and broke even, some of them are even good looking too, these men had potential, some got a degree and worked hard, others opened their own business and all of them succeed and became wealthy and part of the upper class .
women nowadays fail to see the potential in men, they meet a young dude in his twenties and wonder why he's 24 and doesn't have his own place and car yet, and even if they give him a chance and decide to date him they never actually take it as seriously as they should , they don't see how hard he works or how much effort he is putting in to build a future, they fail to see his hard working, loyal side and instead focus on the now, he has nothing now therefore he will have nothing later on.
All you see is a piece of coal, not knowing that under enough pressure it turns into a shining diamond .
I must say though that some women (not many) are smart enough to snatch young men off the market in the darkest times of their lives when they are poor, low status and busting their a*s to make a living, and when these men succeed the women who chose to be with them are rewarded greatly by the same men that other women once considered inadequate, discipline and ethics are hard to come by, and so is loyalty, but many women seem to ignore that in favor of looking for that perfect dude that has it all figured out (again its not exactly realistic).
A lot of men start at a low point, they have nothing to speak of and they make their way up, if they are serious enough they will reach their goal , and the women who stood by their side and saw the potential in them are those who deserve to be treated like queens and respected in every way possible, agreeing to date a wealthy dude at 30 means nothing, he already has his life together, you didn't help him and you will never be able to claim anything or be truly his partner, but meeting a guy and sticking by his side and watching him improve and advance in life, now thats how you as woman get respect and GOOD MAN to stay by your side.