What is the all-time worst first date experience that you have ever had?

Question

First dates can arouse some anxiety. What will they be like? How will they act? Are they loud and obnoxious? Etc. If you have not previously met them, and have not previously seen them, you have even more reasons to be concerned.

I have had a first date with a woman I met online. Her pictures were fairly cute but when she showed up, it was obvious that those pictures had been taken about a 100 pounds ago! It might not have been such a huge problem if she had been honest up front about her size. I had a first date with a lady who was just as cute as her pictures on POF, but I'm not sure she stopped talking more than 30 seconds during our date. Another first date (the only coffee date I ever had) opened her mouth and it looked like her teeth had not been cleaned or even brushed in 30+ years; the idea of kissing her was disgusting!

Have you had a bad first date experience?

Ananchor · Accepted Answer

I can't pick any of those... so let me tell you a story

I moved back from overseas, all my friends had moved away in the 6 years I was gone so I decided to try internet dating, if I didn't meet a guy romantically maybe I'd at least make a friend.
A guy asked me out, I said yes, we talked for a few weeks because timing was off with our jobs. He seemed normal, I wasn't super attracted to his photos but he looked nice, put together, maybe he was gonna be so great in person I felt different, who knows! I'll give it a shot.
We decided to go eat at a nice sushi restaurant and he was going to pick me up.
I wore a plain black dress, low heels and a grey coat. Wore my hair down. Subtle makeup.
I open the door-
He looks dirty, smells a bit funny, he's wearing one of those hemp hippy sweaters, ripped cargo shorts and flip flops that have seen better days. A 180 from all his photos. And once again we were going to a nice restaurant that he suggested.
He kinda stammered hi and we got in his car... It was full of old food containers and reeked of such.
I kept trying to talk and he was not having it. He white knuckled it on the road, I figured he was just super nervous. Very weird 10 minutes. I'm started to get weirded out but figured we are here, we might as well eat.
Except he won't park, he just keeps circling the restaurant and passing spaces. I looked over as we passed under a light and he's crying, tears streaming down his face. But he's still not saying anything.
So I'm internally freaking out, at this point I'm trying to gauge a good time to jump out the door.
Then he starts talking/yelling
"Why did I dress so nice? It's just a first date. Why did I have to wear a dress? Why did I have to wear heels? Why does my hair look like that?"
----again I was in business casual----
So, I suggested maybe he just take me back home but he doesn't want to drive me home, it's too far (10 minutes) and he just wants to go home. I told him I understand he is upset but please just take me home.
The entire ride back is hella awkward and he keeps crying and mumbling about me looking too pretty...
I stepped out of the car and he sped off before I could even shut the door.
The kicker?
About a month later he messages me with demands "if we are gonna make this work"
I'm not allowed to wear dresses or heels. My hair must be in a pony tail and absolutely no make up or "I'm gonna blow it with him."
"He would really like to take me out again but only if I don't look too pretty"
I will never forget that date!

R_Cakes91 · Accepted Answer

When I saw him as I walked up the to the restaurant, I noticed he had a hunchback which was not present in his pictures (they were taken years ago). The date itself was fine, he was nice but afterwards it got weird.

He bought me snow shoes after I had mentioned it once during the date and on the same day I was busy and no replying back as fast to his texts, he got mad and threatened to return the snow shoes. I opened my phone conversation and it was like reading a one sided drama play.

I deleted him.

Therisinghero12 · Accepted Answer

My first ever date was with my first real girlfriend, she ate with her mouth open, was too loud, and would not put her phone down the entire movie and throughout the meal, we went to McDonald and she posted about it like it was a five star restaurant.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

my worst first date was when she leaned over and her Addams apple popped out and I realized she was a transexual. She saw me getting uncomfortable and left.

StingRayxoxo · Answer

I chose C but really it was that neither of us could keep the conversation going.

SuperManiac · Answer

The very worst one involved dating a very shy girl. I barely knew anything about her upfront except that she was very cute and very shy. She was the nervous one in the corner at a party and I got the urge to go up and talk to her and invite her to hang out since I could empathize a bit with that being shy as a teenager and I also thought she was really cute.

Then on the first date, she ended up being quieter than even the shiest ones I dated before that. We ended up just strolling through a park and getting dinner at an Italian cafe. I had to really dig to get any sort of response out of her. I'd ask her things like, "What sort of interests do you have?" And she would respond like, "[starting off into the distance and after very long silence] ... I like pretty flowers. Yes, I like flowers. They're pretty." And I was like, "Ummm... yeah, flowers are nice!" Her: "[another long silence]... yes, they're very nice." Most of the date was like this.

So I was thinking this was a dud of a date if there ever was one with zero chemistry and zero connection, and I figured she wasn't very interested in me at all. Then, over dinner, she asked me my birth date while fooling around on her phone (and I didn't mind that she was preoccupied with her phone since that at least beat the awkwardness of the conversations). I gave her my birth date and minutes later, her face lit up and it turned out she was looking up horoscope compatibility between me and her for marriage. She ended up showing me her phone and it read that our signs were the most compatible for marriage or something like this.

I don't believe in horoscopes but I thought maybe that's a cute little quirk she has and maybe she'll open up to me now with this discovery... except the conversations were just as awkward after that! By the end of the date, I was losing interest and was thinking maybe we could friends if she's still interested in hanging out. I really wasn't into her much at all by that point but I didn't want to end things too abruptly since she didn't look to have many (if any) friends in spite of being very cute-looking.

But I gave it a shot with a second date because she kept contacting me after that and sending me selfies of her. Then on the second date, she had my photo as her phone wallpaper! And the conversations were just as awkward as before. So I ended things abruptly with her after the second date and felt a bit guilty about that. But I was just too weirded out there.

βιυεsκγs · Answer

Well this wasn’t my first date, but not long ago I had a really bad date. After just a few minutes I knew I wasn’t into this guy. We had a meal, and he began to stare at my boobs. Like not just a look or anything, his eyes were wide and he was literally staring (I wasn’t wearing a low cut top). I just made out I didn’t notice. A few minutes after that, he took out his phone and started texting someone. He leaned back in his chair and turned his body to the side away from me , texting. After we ate, he walked me to the bus stop. We were standing there for a while, then he said let’s stand back abit. I agreed, not thinking much of it. So we’re standing by a building, and he moves closer to me. He suddenly says ‘ what would you say if I said I wanted to kiss you?’. I turned away, looking abit embarrassed and said ‘no’. I think he misunderstands me and he says in a desperate way’ you want to go somewhere quiet?’ . I say no again. Then he says go on I know you want to kiss me, and I say no again. Then he puts his arm around my waist, and says ‘I know you wanna do it’, and I say no again. He keeps saying things like these and I keep saying no. Then finally the bus came and says ‘ I’m not going to let you go until you kiss me’, which felt pretty threatening as he still had his hand around my waist. I say no again. Finally, he says ‘ ok I’ll let you go, but I’ll give you a kiss anyway’ and he plants a kiss on my cheek, then I walk off to the bus. There was nothing I could think of that I did was rude that would make a good like that towards me. Needless to say I blocked him straight away when I got home!!

mattdzz · Answer

I don't know the worst, but I've had a couple bad ones:
1. Went to mexican food for lunch, and a transgender (obvious guy from the walk/ voice/ hand size) showed up... I had to make convo while the waiters laughed at me.
2. Had another transgender show up at my apartment... I didn't let him in.
3. Met one girl (an actual girl) at a bar, and another tinder match (who I hadn't made plans with that nite) showed up surprisingly and I ended up just leaving them both there.
4. One girl, who was a psych major, allegedly, didn't know anything about psychology and said that I made her feel stupid after 30 minutes of convo. I agreed, and left.
5. One girl made it well known throughout the entire meal that she had only dated black guys (she was white), but I was her exception. I stopped her at her fifth comment and said, "just go back to the brothers," then left her with the bill.
6. I went on a tinder date and the girl showed up, much much taller than she had appeared in her pics, just kinda laughed about it since I'm only average height.
7. Met a girl who ended up being 17, actually two of them, and I drove her back to her parents house. The other I banged out on her 18th bday, which actually doesn't' qualify as a bad date...
That's it for now

young_old_soul · Answer

One time a few years ago I matched with some girl on tinder and she messaged me instantly. Not 10 minutes in she asked if I wanted to come over. She also left some suggestive hints and I had nothing better to do so I agreed to come over.

When I got to her place, she turned out to look very different from her photos, and not in a good way - She had gained at least 100 lbs since they were taken and it is obvious she had doctored her photos, not to mention she was rather unkempt and dressed very sloppily. I realized I had been tricked but didn't want to be rude and just leave.

After talking with her a few minutes, I could tell that she was very entitled and was quite bitter that she was not at a concert with some of her friends. She also had a large pile od dishes in the sink (that she said were not hers, although she was clearly the only one living there), and had the a. c. set to 61. She asked if I wanted to watch tv and after a few minutes I said that something came up and I left. It was awkward and since became much more careful on who I agree to go on dates with.

WalsallGuy90 · Answer

I didn't answer the poll as none of the options really apply to me, but I have had a bad first date. In general my first dates have always gone fairly well, whether or not it's led to a second one, we've had a decent enough time (one girl kissed me on the first date after I dropped her off home, but then a couple of days later mentioned she'd met someone else on the dating app we were using and wanted to take things further with him, so that kind of went nowhere). But in one instance I did have a bad one.

I got talking to someone on a dating app and we got on really well, chatted loads and got to know each other over text and messaging before I asked her to meet up. We went to a pub not far from where she lived, plan was just to have a few drinks and see if there was any kind of connection. She looked amazing, but when we started talking it seemed like there was nothing interesting for either of us to actually say. Pretty much everything we discussed was a rehash of what we'd already spoken about by text, except she was asking me the same questions she'd asked online and telling me the same stuff about her that she'd already told me before. It got really awkward, really fast. I knew it wasn't going to lead to anything so we cut the date short after about an hour. However, since I'd driven there and being a gentleman I offered her a lift home. It was pretty much an awkward silence the whole way and barely a goodbye when she got out of the car at her place. Next day we agreed over the app that it had been a disaster and ended our online chat there and then. So yeah, worst first date I've ever had was full of awkward silence and repeated questions...

Dongtai · Answer

Yoooo.

No bad dates. But I’m putting down a sexual encounter. I met a girl online when I was like 19 and when we met for the first time we ended up having sex.

As we’re making out this chick start laughing AND crying. Back and forth. It messed me up. I stop to see what’s wrong and she goes from crying to laughing as she holds and kisses me. Weird right? Keep reading!

After we finish she sees this moth in her room flying around. Somehow she gets it to the ground and starts smashing it with a lamp. As she screams at it she takes a lighter and starts burning the poor thing. I was terrified.

I broke up with her over Facebook the following week. I was afraid if I told her in person she’d chop my body up.

jgokgotit · Answer

The first girl I ever dated was a date from hell. We were both 13, but she had already slept with more than a few guys, which I did not know at the time. Anyways, we meet up at a Dave and Busters to have some fun. Everything seems to be going well until her ex shows up. He attacks me, accusing me of helping her cheat. She denies the whole thing and I run him off. We go back to our thing, but she keeps pressuring me for sex. I told her no the first two times gently. The third time I yell at her, not knowing a cop was nearby. Cop comes up to us to ask what is going on and she says I hit her and shows the officer a bruise that she had. I get handcuffed and almost to the cop car when a woman speaks up and tells the officer what happened. I get let go but this girl gets arrested for a shoplifting warrant. Apparently she had stolen from the mall we were at and the store owner pressed charges lol

Anonymous · Answer

I met someone online, met at the restaurant. When she pulled in the parking lot and waved at me, I could literally see the disappointment sweep across her face. Why, I have no idea? It wasn't like she didn't see a picture of me, and I didn't look any different to my knowledge. I think I even asked her if she just wanted to go home, but no, she wanted to go through with the date still. It was the most awkward date ever because I knew she wasn't into me at all, it was that obvious. I guess she didn't want to hurt my feelings I don't know? But her face said it all! As I suspected, I never heard from her again after.

Livinglogical · Answer

I feel this needs to be a bingo game cause I've experienced all of these apart from the fat one.

Worst one was when he turned up really late AND scruffy (no apologies, just excuses) and on the way to get food (which I should have bailed on but by this point i was hungry) we bumped into one of his gay friends and he invited him along... on our date.

Funny thing is that his friend was a delight. Was glad he came along because my date was such an arrogant shit I was glad of the decent company. Then end of the date came and Mr arrogant actually got pissy with me for refusing to invite him home with me. Couldn't get his narcissistic head around why i wasn't interested in either screwing him or seeing him again. Figures.

answerseeker127 · Answer

Mine was a with a girl I knew through highschool. We had talked for a few months on social media, and we had really liked each other and had begun talking like we were already dating except she lived two hours away from me for school. She was gonna spend her winter break with me but the first day I picked her up, she was dead quite. She later said she had a migraine, but after an hour she asked to go home. She said she wasn't fully over her ex and she wanted more time. She said I was an amazing guy and she wanted to be with me, and all that. But I stopped her off at her home and I never went out with her again

GraveDoll · Answer

OMG, I went on a blind date. No one mention to me he was fat. My best friend claims she didn't know. Anyway, it was a horrible date I did not eat my food at all. He knew I was very disappointed and he asks if I was going to eat my food I said no and he just took it. And just ate and ate. I just assume he must have been an emotional eater.

Worse three hours of my life... Never went on a blind date again. Probably why I avoid online dating

*shudders*

MannySimms · Answer

i didn't experience any category you listed so I didn't vote. Saw a great looking girl at college. Cute, tall, skinny and athletic. Perfection!
That's when I learned what androgyny was. Turned out he was a guy with many female features. My friends knew, and tried to rag me. How'd it go? Best blowjob I ever had to this day! That was our only "date" but we remained close friends for years. I used to follow him into public toilets to see how the guys there reacted. They were amused till peeking revealed a very large winkie.

Good times!

elizamichale1 · Answer

Well i once had someone on date and after every few minutes he would call his mum or his mum would call him if he didn't call her for like 10 minutes or so and he would tell her whatever i said
he even took pic of me and sent it to her without even asking me

Anonymous · Answer

Never had a REALLY bad first date, most have been good or okay I guess surprisingly since because of my social anxiety I don't talk much and get extremely nervous. (I go on dates often mostly to practice social skills though lol).
However 2 in my opinion bad ones was
1. When the guy I was going to see was clearly pushing really hard to come off a certain way, being really social and talkactive but it did not seem genuine. He also grabbed my hand at the cinema BEFORE the movie even started and then asked if he could kiss me, again the movie hadn't even begun yet and I was clearly uncomfortable.
2. A guy who lived 2 ish hours away drove here to meet me and immadiately there was just no spark what so ever but he stayed for a few hours because of the time it took him to drive. It wasn't horrible, but we did not connect and it mostly felt awkward to me.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Never really had bad 1st date. There was one, her photos werent the clearest, but she didn't look anything like them, at least 2 stone heavier. That wasn't the biggest issue though. We had pleasnet time, but she brought up subject of kids and not wanting more. I wasn't going to give up wanting one so decided not to waste time

BadApple1 · Answer

Didn’t select any of the options above. I has a first date that from the moment we met she could never make eye contact. We met at a restaurant of her choice (she is a regular there) and she pre-paid her meal. I didn’t know this till the end. The whole time I would ask her questions and she would answer while looking at the floor or some other corner of the room. Not saying I am a great looking guy but I am not that bad lol. I didn’t take that personally because she did the same to the waiter. So check came, I picked it up to see it was only half the bill, I questioned it to the waiter and she said “I already paid my bill, I didn’t want to owe you anything” we said our goodnights and never had a second date. I felt bad for her because I don’t know what she went through in her life but whatever it was... no one should have to go through. She seemed like a whipped puppy to me... hope she found happiness.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

I dressed up nicely in heels.
We sat in a public park talking a bit... was getting dark... he said let’s go... I thought we were going to sat down at a cafe or something... he guided me further into the dim lit park with construction site... he didn’t look like his pictures.
I turned back and left.

Fanme · Answer

Some guy who kept licking me.  Another guy who kept saying penetration trying to be sexy and say the word in a sexy way, and saying he wants penetration 🤢🤢

xkildy · Answer

We talked a lot things were good I told her at first all I wanted was a hook up she said ok but then after the date she wanted to be boyfriend and girlfriend at the time I thought that was a bad idea. I realized now it was not

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