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I’ve been friends with max and we’ve fallen in love and are starting to date but I’m noticing things I did not see when friends.

he only plans things and let’s me know about it last minute. He never agrees to plans I make always has an excuse to not do something if/ when I come up with it but will spend that same time with me once it’s his idea. He will call me but does not want me calling. He only talks about things he raises if I raise a problem I’m “thinking too much”.

my friends were saying he’s just being chivalrous and trying to lead. Maybe he thinking this is his job but why should I care what pretty name you give it. I do not like the dynamic. It’s dusrrsuectful demeaning and completely arbitrary.

I don’t see this working. I can’t even imagine talking to him about it without him acting like I’m pressuring him just by talking.

I can’t believe my friends see no issue. I now have not only learned more about him but then too. This has really opened my eyes to how pathetic their relationship expectations are.

Anyhow , I don’t want to just jump ship on the other hand I don’t feel like dealing with Him getting mad and acting like I’m needy bc I have my own opinions... it’s infuriating.

the weird thing is I’ve always been a very solid person personality wise. We were friends so he knew this. If he wanted a stepford-wife- girlfriend, why come to me?