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I really like this guy I work with but things are so hot and cold that I can't figure out what's going on. I got the feeling that he's getting over someone because in a few chats, we've both talked about our exes. He showed me a pic of her too and told me stories about their time dating.

We're pretty close now and text, snapchat, goof off at work and now are starting to hangout outside of work or get lunch. We planned a trip, and he couldn't go for financial reasons. I was sad for him because he didn't make other plans to enjoy his vacation he just bummed around at home, so I got him a souvenir that he keeps in his pocket. He invited me to a concert coming up, I invited him for coffee. During that time he said he doesn't date because he's mentally got too much going on. I didn't decide if I wanted to date yet so I thought that was a bit... premature. I never ask anything to warrant his objections so I always feel like he's just talking to himself. In spite of that we stayed out for 2 hours and closed the cafe. In addition, I got confused because two weeks before he talked about asking out this girl to me and a mutual friend who then turned him down. When he told the story he again said he's too "depressed to date".

So I'm confused trying to figure out if he's interested in me, other girls, or wants to date but is still heartbroken. He planned to take me to the city for this concert, and talked about how we'll spend the day exploring, going to museums, and he mentions it and how he's excited. He keeps me updated on his life and even during a hypothetical, he looked me in my eyes and said he could spend the rest of his life with me. I haven't mentioned wanting to date, but sometimes when I talk to him he tells me how he feels like our generation isn't romantic and we're too physical (which I agree with) and talks about how he won't kiss on the first date because he wants to really get to know someone.

My boyfriend and I talked tonight and he was talking about his past, mainly about a girl he met when he traveled to Israel. He talked to me about how he wanted her and the reason why he was going for her, and he kept flirting with her and she liked him as well. Then he goes on describing about how they made out aggressively, and how he grabbed her boobs and ass, and how it was the best time of his life. He continued talking to me about how they met up for lunch when she came to USA for vacation. And how he felt bad because she's in love with him And didn't take the time to spend time with her. As I responded, of course you could hear sadness in my voice and I was keeping my composure because I didn't think any girl would want to hear that from a guy. He then got mad and said I'm possessive and how I was giving attitude and that I have no interest hearing about his past. After 5 mins of laying there, I answered "I'm not possessive and I'm not giving you attitude, I love hearing about your past and getting know more about you. It makes me feel uncomfortable when you talk to me about in details on how you aggressively made out with someone and which body parts you touched" and he didn't say anything else but after asking him if he heard what I said 5 mins after he said he doesn't know what to say and wants to go to bed. And he did.

is it wrong for me to say what I said to him? Or should I even have to be the one to apologize.