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I believe that there is a certain behavior necessary in order to truly be a boyfriend (or girlfriend). Now, before some defensive men rush in here huffing and puffing about how some women don't know how to be a girlfriend, that's for an entirely different post. Please do not come here and derail this post because you can't help but be slightly self-absorbed and refer to your own frustrations.

I may be slightly biased because I am a damn good girlfriend who has consistently gone out of my way to be good to my man; honor him on special days, strategically give him delightful memories, and cater to his every sense. In addition, I am loyal to a fault and I intensely defend his honor in any way necessary. Now, I'm not trying to toot my own horn, but I am well aware *based on observation and male experience* that most females are not willing to go to the extreme lengths I go to in my relationship. So, it's very frustrating when he doesn't quite return the gesture. No, this doesn't discredit his potential as a good human being. No, it doesn't mean he's some horrible boyfriend who should be bashed. No, this doesn't negate from all of the good things he has done. This just means that he innocently believes mediocre behavior is acceptable. He thinks that his ordinary, average, unremarkable, uninspirational, forgettable, amateurish behavior as a boyfriend is tolerable.

Now, am I trying to change him? No...and yes. No, I'm not trying to change his personality. Yes, I'm trying to help him grow and develop so he can possess the skill to be a divine boyfriend. Is that really so wrong? If we all just had the stubborn idea that we don't need to change, we would stay immature and never grow. I currently feel that he doesn't know how to be a boyfriend because he habitually lacks the most basic, courteous, common sense behavior that a boyfriend should act on towards a woman who treats him so right.

Your thoughts? What are your personal experiences relating towards this?