Search Results: long term crushes

As I read through the many questions and answers on this site, some things make themselves clear about the writers. When people express themselves sincerely a lot of issues bubble to the surface and it makes coming to this site somewhat educational. At the same time Some of the things I've read have left me cold and sometimes shocked. Our ability to be cruel to one another is immense, sometimes to the point of being sickening. So I was inspired to ask this question in a very general way as to let us consider our experiences with our "love interests". When I say love interest It could be a spouse , lover, boyfriend, gf.or just a person you have a crush on or worship from afar Consider all!

Now assuming all of us has had at least one bad experience with some love interest whether it is cheating, neglect or whatever, ask yourself how this has affected your life over the long term. Let me try to offer some examples; Shy guys have it hard enough just being shy. The way some girls treat them makes it worse, it must be very painful. As time goes on these guys become even more withdrawn and eventually give up. The pain of their youth is enough to set the course for the rest of their lives. What a tragedy! Another example would be young girls who are naive and think there is something cool about "bad boys". Not long after the dating begins, these "bad boys" are abusing the hell out of these girls physically and emotionally. The trauma from this experience can lead to depression, loss of self esteem and worst of all a belief that this is all that is out there. It is very likely these girls will grow into cynical young women who detest men. Or, like the shy guys they will withdraw from socializing all together.

So the polling question will read like this. Would a traumatic experience with romance/relationships/dating etc. alter your social future for the BETTER or WORSE?