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Women cheat just as much as men, and their affairs are more dangerous.
An Indiana University study shows that men and women cheat at the same rate. But “The reasons the sexes cheat are different,” says Dr. Orlando. He explains women are more likely to cheat for emotional satisfaction. “Online cheating—without any physical contact—is the most damaging type of infidelity,” says Orlando. Becoming emotionally invested in another person means you’ve likely checked out of your marriage. But if it’s just sex, it’s less about attachment and more about a hurtful mistake. What do you think about this statement? Is it possible a woman sexting, or emotionally having some form relationship with a man, even if sex is not involved?

I mean American society, of course.

Extremely common affairs such as: rekindling old flames with ex's on Facebook, emotional cheating with a friend or co-worker, sex while on vacation in another state/country, sex while your spouse is on vacation, sex in your spouses bed while they are at work, 50% of marriages end in divorce, not to mention the sexual desires/fantasies for those other than your partner.

It would appear that monogamy isn't the most effective tool for the human animal.

"Polyamory: often abbreviated as poly, is often described as 'consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy.' It is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved."

With such a lust for those other than your partner, and the actual acts of adultery (Emotional or physical) you'd think more humans would partake in such a system.

Our track record shows it would be fitting, so why don't humans adopt it? Why do we value exclusivity, while ineffectively carrying it out?

What's your take?

The question itself is simple, but I will add my personal reasons for fearing the institution we refer to as "marriage".

First and foremost, I do NOT fear commitment, in fact I crave it. I want a life partner and I want the love and security of always having someone to come home to. In spite of that, the prospect of marriage terrifies me.

Marriage is, in the modern world, inherently misandrist. That is to say, it discriminates against men. How? The laws that govern marriage often swing in the woman's favor, particularly when it comes to ending a marriage. The law will, more often than not, grant a woman a significant portion of man's wealth and assets should a marriage be terminated almost arbitrarily. There is no stipulation that she should earn it. There is no stipulation that the divorce should be his fault. There are virtually no stipulations at all. A woman can, and in fact some do, marry a man for his money and divorce him to run off with it.

Children only add insult to injury, where a family court is much more likely to award custody to the mother, creating more weekend dads who are still obligated to pay child support, on top of whatever alimony the civil court has already slapped on the ex-husband's shoulders. That effectively means a woman can run off with your children and live with them like a queen on your dime. Not a very pleasing prospect. There is yet another disadvantage to having a penis in a marriage relationship. A woman can marry one man, have an affair with another and get pregnant, and then have her husband raise a child that isn't even his without his knowledge. In fact, even if a man does discover that the children he has been raising are in fact not his, and wants a divorce, he is STILL obligated to pay child support for children that are not even related to him by blood. This is true even if the "father" wishes to relinquish all of his parental and custodial rights. This phenomena actually happens so often that there is a name for it, paternity fraud. Never mind how hard a marriage can hit your wallet. The emotional and mental trauma that a woman can inflict upon a man via the marital system is absolutely atrocious, and to top it off the law will actually aid her in that endeavor.

So given all of this, my fellow males, ask yourself this question. Are you afraid of marriage?

Ladies, feel free to contribute as well, but keep the conversation civil. Uncivil responders will be banned.