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Ever since I was little I always liked boys, I've had roughly 4 crushes in my life time. When I was 16 I started checking out males and females from top to bottom, I started questioning myself, I started feeling I wanted to kiss girls and try it out, I have moments where I want to kiss them and other times I don't even want to kiss them. I tried to picture myself dating them but I don't really think I do. Then when I start to like someone and they want something serious I tend to pull away. Some guys have told me I am a tease. I would play guys but not really realizing it. I've "Pleasured myself" ever since I was 12\13 years old. I enjoy it. Sometimes I would fantasising being the guy wishing I was the girl if that makes sense. Other times I would want nothing to do with anyone and not even be in a relationship and just focus on myself. (I still think this and I am 20) I go back and forth. Then I was recently talking to a guy and we were talking about stuff like this and he's like "I think your bi sexual when it comes to sex but straight when dating" I kind of got offended and he kept bringing it up and I told him to stop bringing it up and he eventually stopped. He said "I am just helping out a friend realizing who she truly is" keep in mind I've only known this guy for a month. He made me realise some things about myself (not just my sexuality) but other things. What do you think?

So you start dating your best friend who you've had a huge crush on for months - He is caring, shares a similar sense of humour to you, is physically attractive to you, seems to be decently honest & loyal, is understanding when you are anxious/irritated by something rather than being annoyed, reassures you when you need it, and promises on your and his life that you are his one true love and even wants to marry you!

Problem? He doesn't put much effort into the relationship or show much eagerness to see you. After 10 months you have not been on one date together and mainly just hang out in each others houses in one of your rooms all day apart from a few exceptions where you go on a trip with their family or a short trip such as Tesco alone with them. You are growing bored of this. Your mum even keeps saying maybe he's more like a friend.

You fear you are starting to lose interest in him though still like him a bit but things desperately need to be sorted v/soon. You're not sure if he is the right one for you which pains you but you keep feeling uncomfortable about it and your family do not think you have ever been very happy with your boyfriend.

You have spoke to him about it a few times now but only very recently have been firmer with it. He says he will do everything he can to keep you and even gets very upset when he fears losing you, to the point of crying and having "that sinking feeling".

You want to work things out but are worried you may just be pro-longing the break up. He is also currently the only guy you are all that interested in and possibly the only one who is that understanding of your problems.

You see each other twice a week for 9 hours though it used to be just once a week + he has in the past cancelled meeting with excuses like being tired and his leg and back aching a bit from when he went on Alton Towers ride.

What would you do?