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I saw someone else post about her experience earlier and she’s close to my age, about guys friendzoning her. I can’t say my experience has been any better, I get guys interested in me but I don’t like them back. There’s sometimes no connection or just something about them that doesn’t peak my interest. But the ones I do like, they’re not interested or just want sex. I’m not the casual type so I don’t wanna be used as a booty call plus I really don’t want to settle with someone else just for the sake of not being alone. I am not one to usually message guys first, all my experiences except one time were a result of the guys msging me first. I am not lucky like other women who message first, I don’t do it often but I really feel like that shouldn’t be make or break. When I did message first, it didn’t go anywhere except one time and that guy was was a dick🤷🏻‍♀️

So I've always been a rather reserved person, and never really hugged anyone till I met my girlfriend. I am 19, she is 22.

However, my girlfriend is just SO affectionate with people she is close to... I'm fine with it, but it's all new to me. I'm not used to seeing it, since I didn't hang out with friends too much growing up. To be fair, she's only this way with other girls, not guys, but I know she's bisexual, while I'm lesbian...

But anyways, she HUGS people a lot, first of all... pretty tightly, too. Face squeezed up against their face, and all. She also PECKS them on the cheek. Not all of them, but about half of them. She also likes to SIT CLOSE to them, thighs and shoulders touching and all. She even does this while in SWIMSUITS and SHORT SHORTS and TANK TOPS... so a lot of bare skin contact, heh... she says "it's just skin, no big deal at all silly!"

I don't know if I'm just weird, but doing what she does so often, so frequently, with so many friends and family members... would just give me sensory overload.

I know that none of her friends or family members are lesbian or bisexual though. So it's safe, but I can't help but wonder if this is normal...

Whenever I bring this up to my girlfriend, she just laughs and says, "How silly! I'm just really, REALLY affectionate! And besides, remember this, queen... you're the only one I French kiss and have sex with everyday, so no need to be jealous, ya goofball!"

So that makes me feel better, haha.

If it matters, my girlfriend is Black, 22 years old, 5'11, muscular, curvy... when it comes to hugging shorter people she has to sort of pick them up, or else her boobs will literally be in their face, lol. It's kind of humorous. 😂😂😂

I have suspected this for a while that we are just plain the dumber sex. I don't want to fabricate an elaborate explanation for it. All I've truly got is the thought that we are just dumb.

As a whole many of us keep falling for guys who string us along emotionally and dangle that carrot in front of our face. Even when we technically know he's fooling us, we are prone to taking that bait and munching down. I feel like we are often willing to take whatever is offered to us.

For instance I am in an emotional harem (i do not fornicate but maybe the other girls are or are willing to fuck him) with a guy and these other women at work. I was the first girl he took so i got to see him finesse the other two. I dont think he even tried hard especially with the last one. Some girls are easier though.

But anyway, this is a man who told me he used to have girls wanting him at the same time and insinuated that having mutiple wives is ok and normal. Clearly he would be into that.

Oh did i mention he has a girlfriend? She probably doesn't know about his harem but he told me that she knows he flirts and its ok because they trust each other. But this is the same man who wants to fuck me for almost a year now.

I love my guy friend platonically and somewhat romantically. We met like a year ago but he has been saying sexual stuff to me and i am celibate til marriage so the stuff while i realized it was sketchy, it didn't really sink in deep enough just what he was saying and the picture he had in his mind of being with me.

He would say stuff all the time like telling me to twerk for him and he is just a outgoing kinda gooft guy so i figured he's just saying annoying stuff or whatever to annoy me (cause i told him stop talking sexually but he never listened).

Now after such a long time of this, i watched a video of a girl twerking and i suddenly realize he was basically telling me this whole time with all the little suggestic stuff he always said to me, that he sees me as a sex object... He sees me as a girl he wants to f u c k. ... We did talk about other stuff like life goals but still he always was hitting on me sexually even though it often flew over my head cause im simple/naive/optimistic minded and ignore sexual stuff/attention from guys... This man also has told me basically that im so innocent and right after that he said that me and him have to keep in touch. I still dont know why we have to keep in touch if im innocent? So as you can see im still pretty naive and dumb