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So, my best friend, let's call him Alex for now. I came over about 3 months ago to hang out after I was done my 2 weeks after coming back from my time. Alex explained to me that when we went to the beach together last year that Sam and he were flirting at the time, I was distracted, but he said I had told him that Sam had a boyfriend and not to get himself in trouble.

Long story short, apparently, when I went to get something from my car while Alex was in the water, Sam felt him and grabbed his Cough. He claims he was sure it happened and that he couldn't be making this up. He only brought it up to me recently becuase he was shy about it. Sam never said anything or acted like anything was up that day.

- One, Sam has been in a relationship for almost three years now. I know she loves her partner, so I'd be surprised she'd throw all that way so easily. However, she has a history of being reckless, so I don't really know.

-Two, Alex has a history of sexual misconduct. Sometimes, I genuinely think it's he doesn't realize how uncomfortable his statements can be. He recently said he wanted to watch me and another girl have lesbian sex for Christmas, and I told him that made me uncomfortable and that I had a boyfriend... who he's met several. He's also joked about taking my virginity when I was a little younger.

- Three, there was no one else there to confirm his story

I personally, I always think you should believe the victim, and I know male sexual assault gets ignored, and it's a big problem. He's my friend, and I care a lot about him. I've noticed since that day she's been more or less very cold towards him, even when he's the one being friendly. So, I have no idea what to do.

Talking to someone you just want to have sex with is one thing, but talking to a potential romantic partner is another. What's the average time you spend talking to a potential SO before you bring up sex, even just jokingly?
Backstory: I have been talking to a really respectful guy as of late and he had asked my permission to make a joke after talking about our bad relations with our fathers, saying "I don't know if we're there yet". Of course I want him to be comfortable, so I give him the go ahead, and he replies with "You might have some issues with your dad, but I can be your daddy". Bad joke, but it made me laugh and then a conversation about sex happened, but not sexting. We've been talking for over 2wks, which is the longest I've talked to any guy without them bringing up sex or sending me unsolicited dick pics...

Okay so at work a man who I believe is still married made a comment about how he was good in bed (earning the nickname as a demon in the sack), that he had had flings, and that his woman didn't necessarily care per se as long as she knew he was screwing someone else (no there was no mention of an open relationship).

It was a random piece of information - out of the utter blue at the end of a good engaging conversation - and not brought up directly again. But there were other times when he indicating interest (e. g. constantly looking over, staring, etc.) and/or trying to earn favor by tasks at work. And then there was a friend of his who informed me that he really, really liked you.

I will admit I am attracted & were he not married I'd definitely give him a go... But moral-wise being married is a no-go zone. Work. People hook up all the time at work, as long as there's nothing saying you can't management generally doesn't care.

My thing is, is as this behavior all started within a month of knowing one another despite claims of respect, etc., he was quite simply after sex... Or was he after sex to see if worth pursuing a rapport with (there are quite a few similarities between us, will be blunt would be a good match).