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Hi, I’m in love with a guy for almost 2 years but never told him. He first wanted to date me but I rejected him. Then we had a friends with benefits thing and we ended up in fights. We argued a lot for a year and then we made up. It’s been a year he was single and we were more and more intimate.
I was closed to admit to him my feelings but he told me a week ago he wanted to try to date his female best friend. I was devastated and I still am. I’m truly in love with him and care for him.

I understood he probably always thought I only wanted a sexual relation with him, but it sounds like I have a special place in his life but i don’t know which it is : he’s intimate with me, he’s very attracted to me and he trusts me.

His relationship starts bad :
- he couldn’t follow me on instagram or like other girl pictures, because « she’s super jealous » (what he said) and he’s afraid of her making drama and send him screenshots of every tiny thing he does on social medias, because she knows all his past with his exes and flirts so she’s suspicious
- he asked me to not save every text we send to each other because he’s afraid of her spying on his phone
- he explained he has ever talked about me before so maybe i might represent a threat for her

Knowing him so well, and that he never had a serious and mature long-term relationship, liking freedom and doesn’t like being bothered and let a girl get to him.. how he can accept such a thing?

My questions are : do you think their relationship might work? Do you think he never saw I was in love with him? Should I tell him about my feelings (knowing that I’m going to be rejected because he has this new girlfriend) or should I wait more longer that their relation end?

Thanks so much for you help

Hi, I’m in love with a guy for almost 2 years but never told him. He first wanted to date me but I rejected him. Then we had a friends with benefits thing and we ended up in fights. We argued a lot for a year and then we made up. It’s been a year he was single and we were more and more intimate.
I was closed to admit to him my feelings but he told me a week ago he wanted to try to date his female best friend. I was devastated and I still am. I’m truly in love with him and care for him.

I understood he probably always thought I only wanted a sexual relation with him, but it sounds like I have a special place in his life but i don’t know which it is : he’s intimate with me, he’s very attracted to me and he trusts me.

His relationship starts bad :
- he couldn’t follow me on instagram or like other girl pictures, because « she’s super jealous » (what he said) and he’s afraid of her making drama and send him screenshots of every tiny thing he does on social medias, because she knows all his past with his exes and flirts so she’s suspicious
- he asked me to not save every text we send to each other because he’s afraid of her spying on his phone
- he explained he has ever talked about me before so maybe i might represent a threat for her

Knowing him so well, and that he never had a serious and mature long-term relationship, liking freedom and doesn’t like being bothered and let a girl get to him.. how he can accept such a thing?

My questions are : do you think their relationship might work? Do you think he never saw I was in love with him? Should I tell him about my feelings (knowing that I’m going to be rejected because he has this new girlfriend) or should I wait more longer that their relation end?

Thanks so much for you help