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Often I would simply sit next to girls I was attracted to, but it would sometimes work out and often times not. Why?

Many times they would go after specific guys in the center of social life on campus, or at least within the social sphere of the class specifically.

So here’s a radical thought: befriend and approach those men in the center of the social sphere instead of women directly, then get access to social events those women will attend with or without you —> then approach those same women you may have classes with.

This seems more effective because of social proof of mutual friend groups. Instead of being a random guy who sat next to her in class.

I’m not saying the way I did it before doesn’t work, but I am saying I think it’s less effective, ultimately. It’s an uphill road for sure.

I could get away with it when I was younger, but now I think I stand out a little bit more for being slightly older than before which adds to the oddity just enough to make it less effective. Especially since college revolves so heavily on social reputation and social life generally.

It’s not the same as being out in the world after class or on the weekend at outside venues.

True or false?

I tried it out today. I introduced myself to the guy who is likely to have access to social events rather than the few women I felt attracted to — though I did introduce myself to one who sat near to me. I have arrested social development in many ways, so I’m literally experimenting on myself in real time seeing how things unfold when I do X or Y thing.

So this is a follow up to my last question and a conversation I had with my buddy. We discussed how me being to afraid and not calling this girl, who approached me and gave me her number, pushed her away and probably turned her way off for good.

I essentially pushed her away before she could push me away like everyone always does but I realize that if I don't do or say anything I'll always be alone watching everyone around me find love and social success.

I didn't want to call the girl because I didn't want to say something dumb, or not talk loud enough, or weird her out by calling for no reason. I've been living like a hermit to pay for my car so I don't even have money to buy anything of a dollar menu if I wanted to, so I couldn't take her out anywhere or hang out even if I wanted to.

SO sorry for the rambling. Say you gave a guy your number and the next day or two days afterwards he just randomly called you at like 2:00pm or something. Would that be weird or would you hate him for it? As I explained in my last question this girl in my college class seems to kinda like me and I have her number but I don't want to text or call her because:
1) I don't know if she has a boyfriend or something
2) I have no reason to call her other than for our assignment together, but even that isn't really a valid reason to bother her.