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I have a neighbour who I know is obviaouky physically attracted to me but I’m not sure if he’s developed feelings for me.

He’s gone out of his way to hang around me, would lean really close when talking to me, and just change his demeanor around me (speaks to me gently/softly), and would sometimes smile really wide when he sees me/just freeze up. Just recently, I’ve ran into a tenancy contract situation where I might not be able to extend my lease - he was in a similar situation and he’s mentioned that we should both move in together, was smiling to himself when he said it. I took it as him joking but he said it again in front of others and asked me to imagine life in a long stay hotel suite where we get to host parties etc. had a matter of fact look about is that seemed rather serious. His situation was resolved but mine’s still up in the air. Just yesterday, he mentioned if I’m out of options, I should just move in with him (half joking / half serious). Would guys joke about moving in multiple times or is he trying to tell me he’s into me /testing the waters?

I've heard a lot of debate on this subject, and would love to hear individual opinions.

As for me, I'm asexual and so it's never been an issue for me to see people in a strictly platonic way. I've had a few close platonic friendships with men over the years, most staying just that (including a current one of 20 years), but one ending when the friend developed feelings and wanted something more, which I unfortunately couldn't give him.

For you, personally, do you find that you usually develop an attraction and cannot keep the friendship platonic, does it happen but only sometimes, or do you very rarely if ever feel any way but platonic about your opposite sex friends? Are you open to making opposite sex friends, or do you mostly avoid it?