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I’ve been dating my boyfriend for close to 3 years now and we both are students (he’s in undergraduate and I’m in graduate school). This means that we both don’t have much money. His birthday comes before mine, and he mentioned that he wanted a specific pair of shoes he’d like. I got him those and asked if he’d like anything else which he declined to since he knows I don’t have much money and I already spent over $100 on his gifts.

my birthday arrives and I asked him what he got me since I told him what I wanted. He not only didn’t get me my request but got me literal $1 chocolate. He spent less than $20.

we often discuss marriage as well and then he started to complain about how expensive that will be already even though he hasn’t proposed yet in general let alone get the ring. We even went ring shopping in person and online, showed him what I liked, and he again said it was too expensive for his taste and opted for something that was the bare minimum. I told him to just forget it because it’s not even what I like/want and he should keep his money to himself at this point.

Am I being a bitch about it or is this the right reaction towards something like this? I’m not a gold digger but I just wish he at least tries and it seems like he’s not.

I wonder what other people think of marriage. And what type you would prefer.

I myself would like a contract marriage.
Or arranged.

I'm not good with emotions and showing them. So Im not able to connect easily with people when dating.
I could fall in love through time spent with an individual. So I don't need to like them right away to marry them.

It would be convenient and nice to marry someone like me. So that I'm just not alone in life. And we would have written arrangements of certain things we want out of the contract and if it isn't met then it's cause for divorce. Ya Id like that kinda marriage. But that's just me.

I know a lot of people will argue their points of why my mindset and opinion is wrong. I'm not interested in that. But I am interested to hear what you want in your own marriage.