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Now when I say unusual I don't mean some crazy psycho, just to make that clear lol.
When I mean normal I mean:
- Someone who is generally within a person's comfort zone
- Someone ordinary and mainstream
- Very neutral
- Predictable
Cons to this trait is:
- Could get quite boring
- Not a very strong or noteworthy personality
- Since you don't get out of your comfort zone you don't learn very much or develop yourself

Or, do you want someone who's unusual:
- Might be a little out of your comfort zone at times
- Spontaneous
- Someone you're not quite used to or could easily figure out
- An odd person that likes some stuff you might consider weird or just not ordinary
Cons to this trait is:
- More risky as you are not completely sure what you're getting into (outcome could be either amazing or bad)
- You're more likely to get into disagreements
- Since they are a little out of your comfort zone it could make you uncomfortable at times if you rather stay in your bubble

Both have its pros and cons of course. But I want to know what you picked and why.

Early last year I ended a friendship because I felt she was bisexual & wanted more than I could give. I stuck around for the longest time (about 2 years) & wanted to see for myself if this was in fact correct & that my gut feeling was wrong. Near the end of the friendship she tried to pull a few moves on me and say things to get me talking. Now I am no angel. I have my own experiences with women however I feel that I was experimenting & I am now really only into men. I had not told her about my past when she was acting this way. I really did care for her & tried to build her up throughout the friendship regardless if she was plotting something. I had a lot of unrest around her near the end & this is one of the reasons I ended the friendship.
Just some pointers to back my claim of her romantic interest for me:
- We were sleeping in the same bed and she kicked me and when I opened my eyes her face was right by mine
- She asked me for a relationship
- She tried to kiss me
- When she found out I kissed a guy, she went crazy and wouldn't speak to me
All of this while pretending to want to just find out the truth about my sexuality.
Anyway, after the last time I went on holiday with her and she blatantly ignored me because I was seeing a guy. This was the last straw for me & I cut contact.
She didn't respond to my message to her then & proceeded to spread rumours about me which she is still doing 18 months later & trying to get my friends involved. Not only that, I felt really bad for the way I spoke to her & messaged her two weeks ago to say i'm sorry. Not a word from her still.

My heart is sore because I thought she would at least act like she cared. A part of me believes she is angry because she didn't come right with me & humiliated & thinks well what the hell do I need her around for, but another part of me doesn't understand why someone who went out of their way & comfort zone to pursue me, could let me go that easily...