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When I start someone I make sure to ask him if he wants a relationship or not. Sometimes asking if he is ready to settle down or not. (I don't want just a hook up) Well after texting a guy for 3 weeks (saying he wanted a relationship an almost proposed to his ex before they broke up) he decided he just wasn't ready for a relationship just yet and asked if we could be friends. He apologized about the whole thing and after a week of not talking he's my best friend now, but in the back of my mind I do wish we could go out again even though I feel like that will probably never happen.

I met this other guy at school and he told me that he wanted a relationship and wanted to settle down, even saying that a girlfriend should be someone you plan on marrying and that if I was just looking for sex I should just stop talking to him. we had our ups an downs after dating for a month an still said he barely knew me. something happened and he decided he wasn't ready for a relationship yet, but also didn't want to be friends b/c he didn't want me to forget my feelings for him. He said that after he cleared everything up in his life he would come back to me and that he misses me even if he starts seeing other girls in the meantime (which I didn't like hearing. I don't get why he could date them but not date me if he's not ready for anything?) I don't know whether to just forget this guy completely (hate him for all of this rollercoaster stuff and ignore him or keep my feelings in case he does comes back one day) either way I don't plan on staying single and "waiting" for someone who won't even call me thier girlfriend but it's still confusing. I'm scared he just wants to keep me around as an option but I think that's just the fear from my past haunting me.

So the question after a little bit of background. Why do guys say that they are ready for a relationship even if they aren't? Did I just get unlucky to find 2 guys in a row that tried but found they couldn't handle something serious yet?