Why We Get Turned Off So Easily

[Anonymous]

Dating is a big hunt for humans. If you haven't realized this already, then you've been out of the loop for quite a while. If you feel like someone once liked you, so you reciprocated the feelings and now *POOF* they are gone, then you know what I am talking about. We are in this for the hunt. Don't get me wrong, it can be playful and harmless, but it is in the nature of man to seek, hunt, and attack. Ever heard of the saying "I got it but it ain't so good anymore"? Probably not, because I just made it up. In reality, we all want what we can't have.

Guys, do you wonder why that girl is playing "hard-to-get" or constantly ignores you when you talk to her? Then the next few days you say nothing and it seems like it ticks her off? Yeah. That is what this is all about. She wants your attention, she is trying to pull you in and allure you, but when you decide, "I guess I'll stop the chase", it upsets them.

Girls, a guy attempts to get your attention, you kind of ignore them, and it makes them try even harder. When you finally do give them the attention they are after, they suddenly "Have no feelings for you". Annoying isn't it?

That is why this is not just a hunt, but a game of strategy and skill. As stupid and undermining as that sounds, it is very true. How do you think people get famous? Sure it takes their talents, skills, or good looks, but there are many people just like them all over the world.The popular website, YouTube for instance.

You might be someone who has an amazing channel, but you uploaded your video 2 minutes AFTER that one cute cat video so everyone ignores your video and watches the cat video instead. In reality, no matter what you do, its a game of chance and timing. Another good example, you can get as good as you want to at rolling dice. You could be the fanciest dice roller in the world, but you cannot guarantee that you will land on a 6 every. Single. Time. It just isn't possible. You are bound to roll something different after 100 rolls.

So, I bet you are waiting for me to give you some logical, magical answer, right? Well unfortunately, this is the real world. No special potions, or shots, or tips that I can give you to become "The ultimate date magnet". Truth is, your ultimate goal in dating SHOULD be to find someone to marry. There are only two options when you are dating. You will either marry them, or break up with them. If you can't do the first thing yet, then I am sorry but maybe you shouldn't be dating. Secondly, Just be yourself. Take your time, lock you sights on the target, and play the game. Dance the dance. Fly the plane. Eat a bagel. Where am I going with this? Oh yeah.

Experience is key. If you don't feel confident in your ability to "dance", then observe others and study yourself. Study the game. Watch professionals play. Know your strengths and weaknesses. I know this all sounds very strange or idiotic, but in the long run it really comes in handy knowing what all of the "right moves" are. If you see someone that you truly like, then give them a hint if you think they might like you back. If they ignore you, ignore them. If you get a response from ignoring them, then the game has begun! I hope you enjoyed this!

[Anonymous]

i get where you are coming from, but i think that whole game thing gets old as you get older and no one should marry someone that they had to play games with to get. but thats my opinion. a little bit of a dance happens throughout 'courtship' and thats fine but to play mind games, to me means a relationship that would not last. But everyone is different tho

[theccanyon]

Great myTake! It's so true. Ironic, isn't it?

Studies back this up this old adage as well. Its also known as the Push-Pull effect.

[Zorax]

It's so true, lol :P

[RJGraveyTrain]

See, I never played the whole mind game thing. I don't have the time or patience; if I like somebody I always end up being honest and telling them.

[myTake Owner]

I know this is a very late response, but yes I understand. I've always been that person too. This myTake was for the general public as I have had many friends come to me with this problem. I haven't been in any huge relationships and I have watched everything go down. This was pretty much a "guide" for the people who have this sort of take on dating.

[megaman242]

I never look, well I have it in the back of my mind because if I find someone to interesting I go and talk to them just to talk to them. And it's then you sometime feel the conversation go smoothly and you see each other fire up in passion for the subject, you see the true self in them because it's not flirting with all the games, it's conversation about interest. But then something magical happens, she sees the true you and you see the true her, and you tend to sitt closer, you get longer and longer eye contact, you speak softer and slower. The connection is made, and time no longer exists and you talk long into the night. You know you should leave but non of you want to leave so you kiss. That's how I do it, I don't look, I start a conversation with intent of making friends. But yes I talk to interesting people just in case.

[RussianNestingDoll]

If I am easily turned off that is nature guiding me. You can’t force yourself to persevere for no real reason.

[Lance1965]

Don't hunt, don't play games, throw out some bait and she doesn't take it look for someone else. I don't have the patience.

[ZeussLightningBolt]

I don't always get turned off, but when I DO it's because of ugly feet

[Anonymous]

True. I just hooked up with a girl I liked on the first date. Wondering if I made a mistake

[just_a_potato]

Easy, undesirable things make your dick soft

[heena_sanchaita]

Dang I like it this is so true

[ChiPaPa]

I don't waste my time anymore.

[CoffeeWC]

Nice take

[Anonymous]

Good take.