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So I have been crushing on this guy for 2 years and he found out. He started to be mean to me so that he could get me to stop liking him I guess. He is my bible study leader. I never ever acted on my feelings nor did I ever make him feel uncomfortable. If I like someone, I get shy and quiet and somehow he found out.

I still respected him as a person even though he kept being mean to me. He would like my photos on social media and I would like his.

Anyway, our bible study group started to grow a lot and we had to split up to make the groups smaller. A lot of people stayed in his bible study and not a lot of people wanted to go to the other mans.

He asked me to help him in bible study group sign ups which I readily agreed. Things were going fine but he wasn't talking to me throughout. At the end of the day, he told me to go to another bible study group, I became cold and started to walk off. Also a few weeks ago, he said that whenever I talk to people, they always go away. He called me and I said that what he said was uncalled for and it hurt my feelings.

He was very dismissive and apologized because... well he had to. He said that he became mean to me because he found out that I liked him and he did not want to lead me on. Which is fair enough. He said that now this is out in the open, he can be friendly with me again. I was a lady and did not act bitter with him.

Anyway, I sent him this message.

"Hey mate, hope you're well and again thanks for the chat. I think it's best if I serve God in another capacity at church therefore I am just giving you a heads up to find someone new to do the next few weeks of sign ups. I want to give you space and I need space too and I don't want you to think of anything regarding me liking you. I thought I would tell you now to give you time. Much love and respect bro and see you soon".

Was this a good message?

I’m wondering how many people have gone through a similar situation where you had to for your own self respect reject a guy or a girl that you really liked.

How did you feel afterwards? How did you heal from it?

I recently started talking with a guy that I had a crush on. His the one who approached me in the first place. He also showed interest only to slowly start pulling away. He started showing signs of confusion as to his desire to continue this friendship/ new relationship maybe love thingy with me. I felt my emotions being hyped up unfairly by him. He new I had an interest in him. I had a hint that he was approached by other girls too as a suitor. He confessed he is stuck in making a decision and doesn’t want to upset anyone. When he asked of me to stay in contact. I felt it was totally unfair of him to ask this of me while his going to take his precious time deciding what he wants. I felt like a doormat that he can come and say Hi whenever he feels like it. One thing I did was to never pursue him when he took his distance. I stayed indifferent and acted like I don’t care and don’t live for him. He promised to see me one day but never planned anything within those two weeks. I felt like I had to put my foot down to avoid more hurt. So I told him that it was best if we stopped being friends and moving on. He never replied back to my message. I’m assuming he didn’t care and I actually just made it easy for him.

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