How To Know If You Are In A Toxic Relationship

[Desconhecida]

When you feel more alone than when you were single...

How many times can you accept the same apology?

What is a Toxic Relationship?

A toxic relationship contaminates your self-esteem, your happiness and the way you see the world.

Toxic relationships can come in all shapes and sizes.

It can happen to men and women and sometimes are easy to identify – you recognize the signs and end it. Other times, a toxic relationship can take years and before you know it, you are trapped in a situation that's harmful to your physical and mental health.

You may even think that such relationship would never happen to you – that you would immediately know what was wrong and end things.

It is not always so simple.

However there are always red flags...

Run, Forest, RUN!

- Red Flags -

*** You can not have a healthy conversation because your opinion is not heard, considered and respected. Instead of recognizing your feelings, they fight you until the end.

*** They suspect you all the time or get jealous of your friends. This is one of the greatest signs of a toxic relationship: feeling guilty all the time.

You feel you need to apologize and prove your innocence even if you haven't done anything wrong.

If your partner doesn't trust you, there won't be a future.

*** When you spend a lot of time together, you feel anxious and willing to leave because at any moment, a fight can start between you two.

That's probably a big red flag.

Someone you love must be a person you want to spend some time with, someone you can trust, not someone you're afraid to talk to.

*** Your partner may also have a habit of threatening to break up with you when things get tense or difficult. This may seem like a cruel game.

Whenever they are not satisfied or have a problem, they threaten to end the whole relationship, knowing that you will beg them not to.

Don't ask people why they hurt you. Ask yourself why you allow it.

*** They insult you or "it's all your fault".
If you start a relationship, set up rules for yourself, such as never insult your partner and never allow yourself to be insulted by them.

If they get past that line, take action. This is one of the great signs that you are in a toxic relationship:

When you are constantly being disrespected. This is verbal abuse and you should not accept it.

*** They can also blame you for all their insecurities and they are incapable of apologizing.

If people treat you like they don't care, BELIEVE THEM!

Is it worth it?

Relationships should not be a constant struggle. It is important to make sacrifices in relationships, but your happiness, self-esteem and respect for yourself should always be on the list – ALWAYS!

When you're with someone who suffocates these precious parts of you, be aware of the damage they are causing.

You don't owe them anything and you don't deserve to be in a toxic relationship.

GAME OVER! Thanks for playing!

You deserve to be happy!

#sccTakes

SCC.

[Comawhite666]

I think I was in a slightly toxic relationship.
There was something I was doing that he didn't like, he kept changing his mind on and off about it, he threatened to break up with me over it, he had anger issues and I felt afraid to play games with him as he would get angry if he lost, he was very clingy and didn't like it when i didn't reply to his texts instantly. He said things to me and when I called him out saying it was emotional blackmail, he said it wasn't and he was just voicing his opinion.

Thankfully I am a very strong willed person and won't let anyone control me so I left him.

[Heythere2013]

Great take! I had a sneaking suspicion that I was in a toxic relationship, but I was in a little bit of denial. He did pretty much everything above. My mom actually told me how unhealthy it was to spend so much time on the phone w/him (after spending (9+ hours w/him that day). He would get upset if I wanted to the phone calls short. I am thankful I got out after just a short period of time. After that I was super gun shy and was actually overanalyzing things my new boyfriend was doing and paranoid that we were another toxic relationship.

[Lance1965]

You have to decide very quickly is the person you are with worth the time, effort and money. Some people can't make their mind so toxic relationships can drag on for years. Nobody owes you or your partner anything and there is no such thing as a free ride. As soon as the first red-flag appears work on it or move on ASAP. People set themselves up for heartbreak and disappointment by their own actions.

[Browneye57]

Well, unfortunately there's a lot wrong with this. And no, no one 'deserves to be happy', they get what they get for the effort they put in, the work and investment they make. This whole entitlement mentality is a giant fail, and sets up women like you for extreme disappointment.

[Logorithim]

Excellent Take. It's one of those Things where you know it when you see it, and sometimes others Close to you recognize it before you do. It has got to be terrible to be in one of These relationships.

[Hapinus]

I really enjoy reading this because I’m sort of new to relationships and it really helps me figure out what exactly I’m doing wrong. I don’t constantly do any of the things listed but I have threatened to break up once and get jealous quite a bit of the life he has outside of just me
Thanks for informing me and I’ll try to be less toxic lmao

[Ki_Wavy]

i was in a VERY bad one. we broke up and got back together 7x. he was emotionally exhausting, extremely jealous, made me feel guilty for not talking to him all day or not skipping my college lectures to stay with him and talk. but i also need to take responsibility bc (apparently) i could be very manipulative towards him.
all in all, i saw red flags and ignored them. i fucked up.

[Lavinnykins]

Absolutely. Just left a toxic relationship and it all started when he refused to listen. I always thought I wasn't the one making it toxic but there's only one way to beat them and that's join in.

[random_stranger]

great one.
these points are the ones we all know but we go ahead to ignore them... so its a reminder to all of us to stay happy and respect ourselves.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I like the topic. Right from the start I saw red flags I deal with, but eventually started seeing some red flags I myself display. I'm working on leaving, but it's a work in progress.

[JimRSmith]

Worth mentioning that a toxic relationship can also happen between friends or colleagues, too.

But great Take. Nailed it.

[binarybabe001]

Very good points all good things to remember to stay away from toxic interpersonal relationships. thanks 😊

[BleachyPeachyBoi]

It’s sad that some of these relationships had a nice start then slowly went south.

[DiegoO]

Another great MyTake😄. It can be resume: don't put your partner on a pedestal and don't set yourself there.

[edgyfox]

I think that if you're not happy you're probably in a toxic relationship.

[Blackbrowny]

Its pretty easy actually... if he doesn't do what ever i want him to he is toxic and doesn't respect me... right? :D

[Darrennhb]

you should get paid for this article lol *claps claps*

[villageidiot]

That's why I always keep a carbon monoxide detector with me.

[Joeisasking]

If there's more analysing than enjoying you are in a toxic relationship

[worldscolide]

My god this is my ex to a T.. Though all of this was her i will add that she was excessively violent to me.. i have the scars on my face to prove it.

[Landshrk0068]

Great my take, but you've pretty much described most western women under the age of 40 as toxic, not all, but well over 3/4 of them.

[chrisbigman]

I'd like to add that it's toxic if only one person is growing in the relationship, instead of both of them.

[OatsnWhey]

I feel like any serious relationship will go through ups and downs like this at times.

[Raquel93]

I wish I had learned about this site 2 years ago and maybe I wouldn't ave ended up in the predicament I am in now glad Im not in that relationship anymore