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I am, and I'm not afraid to admit it, because it's the pure truth.

My whole life, I've never had any talent, and have never been willing to improve. I've noticed a certain pattern with me: I'm somewhat good for a beginner at something (sports, video games, drawing, cooking, etc), I overpraise myself for small acheivements, then someone who's actually decent comes and wipes the floor with me, and I prefer to cry and insult my opponent and quit rather than practice to better myself.

And my attitude is disgusting, too. I literally have no care or remorse for anyone around me. I only get worried when it affects me. Like if my boss died, my pay would then probably be delayed. But if it doesn't affect me, I don't care if my co-worker's grandma or whatever just died. I'd be lying if I said I did.

I also get into fights a lot because I'm very blunt and dramatic, but always get beaten because I'm physically weaker and almost never exercise. For example, I had went up to a guy at my school, pushed him, and said, "You should be kissing my ass right now, you retarded son of a bitch! I did all the work on the project for Mr. Smith's class, while you and that other guy didn't do shit, and still got a fucking A plus!" And then I go for a punch, and it hits, but then he hits me back even harder in succession till I finally fall to the ground.

But despite all this and being unwilling to change, I'm not proud of it, and am very well aware I'm far from a good person. I also do not admire people with similar attitudes to myself.

I overall act this because I'm unwilling to practice a lot and work hard to get good at something, because I want to appear tough so I just insult people instead of accepting my loss, because I don't care about anyone unless their misfortune affects me, and I like to point people out on their bullshit, like with people on projects who leave me to do all the work by myself.

The recent #MeToo movement has had a great impact on women in general, inspiring many women to come forward and break their silence regarding past abuse or assault. Many guilty people have been brought into the spotlight and punished accordingly, and I think it's amazing that it's had such a positive impact.

However it think it has spiraled out of control. Much of the result now is left to the court of public opinion. Someone makes a single accusation, social media flys into a storm, and then the person accused has their career ruined. No evidence, no proof, nothing is really needed for this to happen. You do not need to prove beyond a reasonable doubt anymore that your claim is true, instead it is immediately believed, and the accuser is left to defend themselves.

Is this really right? Is this justice? Think about it. If we are now operating under the assumption of "Guilty until proven innocent" how is the accused supposed to prove their innocence? If an ex of mine starting messaging my employer, telling them to fire me because I sexually abused them, how to I prove I'm innocent? I don't have any messages from our relationship, no video, and it's not like someone was witness to every single time we were together, so what am I supposed to do?

My ultimate question is this: Do you believe #MeToo and the current attitude towards accusations has changed for the better? Or has it spiraled out of control?